Change others...not at all. Conform...not at all.

Change others...not at all. Conform...not at all


Loving yourself a little more today than yesterday, and a little more tomorrow than today really is the most wonderful Journey, the Journey of personal growth, the Journey of Success in all areas of Life.
Loving Self allows us to walk around radiating inner peace,allows us to understand and love others in their uniqueness.
So, The Journey of becoming an effective leader for example begins with understanding self, loving self and leading self.
Unfortunately we have this habit of trying to change others instead of changing our own attitude.....How's that working for you? LOL.

Of course not very well.Focus on yourself, your attitudes and behaviour, focus on your relationship between you and yourself, will help you so much more.
As leaders we encourage and inspire change and growth, but others will choose to take part in a change driven environment or not based on our ability to motivate them.
An effective leader's job is to send people in a New Direction, towards a New Vision and that requires courage, understanding, motivation and trust.
I believe part of becoming an effective leader is knowing who we are and especially in this fast developing, leading edge environment Self Development is becoming a necessity.
Do you know who you are? Do you understand yourself?

Please share your thoughts.
L H

Choose Beliefs that support where you are going in life.

Choose Beliefs that support where you are going in life.

What are beliefs anyways?

Beliefs are simply thoughts we keep thinking nothing more, they are not "The Truth" they are just something we told ourselves often enough, until we started to believe them.
Over our lifetime we accumulate many beliefs, some that support and help us and others that hurt us.
I find that the beliefs that hurt us the most are some of the beliefs we have about ourselves.
So how and why would I hurt myself?
Let me give you a little example : many years ago in your childhood someone said to you "You are so disorganized" or "You will never be like...",or "You are just like ....." so you hear statements like this a few times and then you start looking for evidence to support that statement, and of course because when you are looking for something you'll find it, you keep noticing evidence of that.
Little do we know that all we need to do is just stop affirming that to ourselves and start looking for things that we believe are our strengths.
If you are on the wrong track, all you have to do is STOP and find a better track.
It is in your hands and in your best interest to empower yourself my friends, or you can keep doing the opposite.
So what do you choose starting today?

If what you are doing isn't working the way you want it to work, don't be afraid to change it , start approaching it a little different.

If you want to do better this year than you did last year, you must choose thoughts and beliefs that will take you in a different direction, right?

So, starting today, compliment yourself, use superlatives when you think and speak about yourself, choose beliefs that support where you are going in life.
It is in your hands and it is up to you.

How are you doing on that?

Lorena Heletea

Life is an opportunity, capture it!

Life is about choices.
There are two ways to start our day. We have a choice every day the moment we walk out our home to go one or two directions.
We can be the person determined to have a good attitude because you know that if you have a great attitude you can be with people that treat you with dignity and respect and care about you or we have the choice to be negative, angry, mad and hostile.
The choice up to us.
We choose what attitudes we have right now. And it’s a continuing choice.

It's Wednesday morning, 5 AM Ottawa Canada snow storm (-?°C) i didn't even dare check the temperature, I'm on Twitter (one of my favorite places for inspiration) as well as TV turned on - news are coming in, updates, warnings - and most of us still at home comfortable, warm (some even grumpy/no caffeine yet :) or irritated about the storm and the mess is about to start), and I really started to think about it : here they are, a dedicated group of people that make a choice to be our inspiring guides at 5/6 AM everyday and throughout the day, to bring their good positive attitudes and their creativity into our lives, to do it with a smile on their face, be uplifting and set a good start of the day for so many of us.



Dedicating this blog post to you, all media - TV, Radio, News papers - special thank you to the ones i interact with on Twitter and keep me updated about Ottawa events and good music - @CTVCanadaAM , @neilhedley , @AMorningOttawa, @ErinLannan , @daytimeottawa , @EZBreakfastShow , we appreciate what you do everyday, we appreciate the fact that you leave so many people with a feeling of increase and a positive start of the day, you make it easier to start our day with a smile and a good attitude.

Most important lesson - you teach us how we should start our day :)


Choosing your Attitude /The Power of Thoughts

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you like to win, but you think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost,
For out in the world we find,
Success begins with a fellows will,
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can

Enthusiasm and belief can achieve more in a day than reason can accomplish in centuries.


To all of you for a very successful 2011.

Lorena Heletea
and i'm sure many others in Ottawa

Don't wait for others to treat you better, treat yourself better.

Everything you see is a reflexion of your own Mental Attitude towards yourself.

Taking responsibility for your attitude, your behavior and results is probably the most important step on your way to improved Results in all areas of life.

When you focus on the negatives about a person or a situation - you are in the same vibration - in the same energy, that is the reason you notice what you notice about that person or that situation.

Every change in life begins with awareness and responsibility, you can not change your circumstances by blaming anybody or anything. Right?

Don't give your power away. If you blame, you allow others to control how you feel, to control your results in life.
When you blame you loose, you set yourself up for failure.

If I hear people say to me : But you don't understand she or he did this to me, or said this.....
My short answer is : Yes I do understand. But, does that change the situation in anyway? I guess your stuck then, aren't you?

People are so focused on proving how right they are about the situation they are in, they never get of that track, therefore they don't see they have choices.
You do have choices, lots of choices.


If you want to change your results, if you want to be a winner in life you must take responsibility for your actions, for your present results and your present circumstances.

How do you begin?
Ask yourself, what can I do different? How can I change my own attitude?
What beliefs/habits do I need to change? What behavior do I need to change?

Then go out and do it different, take responsibility for your results in life. Don't wait for others to treat you better, treat yourself better.

Empower yourself my friends. First and best victory is to conquer SELF.


How are you doing on that?

Lorena Heletea

Soft Power Leading.

Leading with "Soft Power".....



When you enter a conversation do you expect people to agree with you or you would rather leave people with an impression of increase?
Do you like to grow in awareness , learn from a situation - and by learning I mean sometimes we can learn what to do other times we can learn what not to do, or you would rather keep learning the same life lesson over and over again.
Because you see in life we keep getting "The same" Lesson until we learn it - we can not move to the next level of success or prosperity until we learn the lessons we must learn at the previous level.
Me personally don't write blog post or comments on other posts so I get every one's approval - growth is part of life, growth is part of the journey we are on, growth is going from one goal to another towards our Purpose.

I love reading other people's comments so I can understand and a different point of view, so I can learn a different way of approaching a problem or a goal of mine - a different way of thinking.

Approaching something slightly different next time around will give me different results right? That being the truth I believe it serves me to stay open minded to new ideas and not stuck in the same kind of thinking that created my current circumstance, my current level of success.

I strive to do better this year than I did the previous year and the year before - therefore change is inevitable.

One of the things that changed my life dramatically in the past few years was - learning and understanding more about myself, taking responsibility for my actions, my results my attitude and my own behavior.

Now what has attitude got to do with my results?

Everything.

A fascinating aspect of self development is I got to the point where by guiding my own attitude towards other people I can guide their attitude towards me....

If you are a Leader, you must understand that you your words will be better heard and understood if you guide people with your own attitude - which I call "Soft Power".

What approach to leading works best for you? What gave you best results?
In my next post I will get into this a little deeper.

Please share your experience with us.
To your Success.

Lorena Heletea

Shake off what most people might perceive as failure.

Shake off what most people might perceive as failure.

Talking to myself this morning, deciding what steps will I take today towards my Goal. And some mornings decisions are easy especially when things go your way and what you worked on gives you the results you expected... wright? You are inspired to take more action, that's when self-motivation is not a problem at all.
But what happens when for a couple of days things just don't go the way you wanted them to go, when it seams like everything is just biting you in the butt?
What happens then? How do you act, how do you decide to use your energy then, will make the difference and always has.
Passion, persistence, stepping out of our comfort zone, and most important getting back up after failure...these are the traits of a true champion! Getting up again and doing it different and better.
How do I find the inner power? How do I keep advancing? How do very successful people do this?
It takes confidence and self belief. You can have all the knowledge in the world all certifications, diplomas but nothing will help you if you don't believe in yourself.

Do you know you can have all the plans in the world - but if you don't work on your mindset you'll be stuck there for a while.
We must spend as much time on the MINDSET for SUCCESS as we are on the marketing and planning and all that which will be useless without the mindset for success.

The Success JOURNEY is one of the most profound personal growth Paths you can take.
And any new level of success you achieve becomes a new level of personal growth.


We all have amazing talent and potential within us.
How do you use yours?

Hope you give this some serious thought so you don't have to be stuck there for a while.

Please leave your comments or questions bellow.

Lorena Heletea

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.


Starting 2011 - we can get into it like a lost sheep or WE CAN Make up our Mind we are going to do it Big , we are going to do it Different.
So, I decided to go for the second. What did you decide?
The way I look at it : If what we are doing isn't working the way we want it to work, don't be afraid to change it , start approaching it a little different, right?
Sounds easy enough.
I mean Commitment to a New Goal it's easy, no big deal (especially for the first 2 weeks of the New Year ha,ha,ha) but buying into it, keep our commitment, creating new habits and beliefs not so.
Choosing New Habits and committing to a new way of doing things is an Art I would say.
So if you decided to do it different and by that I mean do it better and bigger this year, here are some aspects you could incorporate in the process, because changing habits is a process, a system.
1. Don't change things by fighting existing reality, to change things you need to create a New Model - that makes the existing model obsolete.
2. Write it down - make your commitment in writing, sign it and give your written commitment to someone you respect and trust - This is like a Policy against failure. Make 2 copies and keep one.
3. Read your commitment out loud every morning - first thing in the morning and just before going to bed.

And here we go getting into Habits again...hum, fun part begins.
ACT!

P.S. Now make sure your signature means something, something as simple as keeping your promise to yourself will build or chip at YOUR SELF IMAGE.

Please share your experience with us and if you have any questions please ask, it would be my pleasure to compare ideas with you.

Lorena