Wednesday, January 20, 2010

It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know...

It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know...

or Bruce Lee way: "I can teach you what I know but you have to let go of what you know"

So true, in order to become more successful or to achieve more in life we have to be open minded and willing to learn everyday,study faithfully everyday and apply what we learn to some area of our life.
Just because we finished school it doesn't mean we have to stop learning.
For some years of my life I had the "I know that" Attitude.... without understanding why I was doing it or how it was affecting my life.

So, how and why I woke up?

Today I call them "Lessons"(Life Lessons)....realized that I was getting the same "Lesson" over and over again but because I chose not to listen or learn from it...I kept signing up for another "Lesson"
Now, can smell from far away when I'm about to get another lesson and don't sign up anymore, actually trying to help friends to do the same,but we can't,everyone needs to do that on their own when they have signed up and got enough "Lessons"then they are ready to keep paying for the same lesson.

Interesting part about changing my attitude was realizing that the person I was hurting the most by choosing not to "listen"was guest it "ME (there is a big difference between hearing and listening - we hear with our ears and we listen with our emotions).
We don't do this on purpose to ourselves obviously and thinking back my reason for not listening was.... "I didn't ask for anybody' s opinion" (felt like I was back in my childhood when my sweet mother used to "order me" to do something, and couldn't get her to understand that the stubborn kid will not do it until asked nicely... that was a lot of fun :) ) .....Oh, that's where the resistance came from.

As an adult the word "Opinion" means something very different to me.

Whatever another person said to me it is simply their opinion nothing more, don't have to accept that as my reality and can use"my marvelous Mind" to decide if I accept or reject the information, but must be open minded.
One of my rules is, I don't take advise from someone just because they are willing to give it to me, I ask myself "Does this person know what he/she is talking about?" Then consider what to do with it.
In order for us to grow in awareness and to understand self better we have to constantly challenge our old beliefs, we have to have new information coming in.
Studying and learning faithfully everyday for the past few years about the human mind and behaviour, helped me understand why all that fear of other people "telling me what to do" and it makes a lot of sense.
As little kids we were programed to gather our information trough our physical factors they are like little antenna and are to:

  • See
  • Taste
  • Hear
  • Smell
  • Touch

We were tought to: "Listen to what your father said", "Watch what your older brother does" etc...
Old programing if not recognized and corrected keeps us going nowhere FAST....and gives us the same Results over and over again in all areas of life.
There is a better way to collect information and that is trough our Intellectual Factors which are:

  1. Reason
  2. Imagination
  3. Intuition
  4. Perception
  5. Memory
  6. Will

They are like mental muscles and we can develop them trough repetition.
Andrew Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Ford and all big achievers used them to accelerate their success.

Next Post: will give a definition of each one of them and we'll talk about how we can develop and use them to set and achieve our goals,change old habits,walk towards success faster.
Getting a good understanding of these factors and how we can use them will accelerate our success in any area of life.

Please share with us your experience and how you feel your old unrecognized beliefs kept you going in circles life so we can all learn from your experience.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing...

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing....

You know it is so easy to remain a victim of the past, and I have this conversation with many clients and friends on regular basis.

Unfortunately we have not been thought in school how to think, how to behave,how to understand ourselves (basic things wright?)

I mean Math and History and Geography is great stuff but if you don't know what to do with yourself in life how does all that help you?

We were not thought what self image, self esteem, self motivation, self confidence is...

Therefore so many people can't look you in the eyes and give you a powerful hand shake - clear sign of lack of confidence... some of you might say ...o big deal - oh, yes it is - in more ways than you can imagine.

You know the expression....We never get a second chance to a first impression?

Probably you lost your job interview at hand shake....A good leader has great Intuition and will sens your lack of confidence in 2 sec. flat and this is just one example.

Another very important aspect of life that we were never explained is that as adults we have the power to change our Habits that don't serve us any longer.

As children we copy what our parents do and say we know that, then as adults we continue....

I used to hate my mothers nagging growing up....and guess what? I grew up to do exactly what I hated ....we don't do that because we are bad people, it just feels normal and familiar,we copy authority figures in our lives.

So, as an adult I took responsibility for my actions and decided that what I didn't like probably nobody else liked and change it.
Yes, it takes awareness and commitment but trough repetition we can change any Habit (I mean it took us 15,20,25.... years to form that Habit it's not going to change overnight) but the same way we formed that Habit we can form another.

But you have to know that it takes awareness,understanding, self study and self control.....and it also takes leaving victim hood behind and taking responsibility for our actions.

Most of us can't do this on our own, we all need guidance,mentors,help,we need someone to challenge our beliefs so we can brake trough our Barriers. Until we do that no major changes will happen in our lives.

As adults we have the ability to choose and to control our ATTITUDE....
We can control how we do the things we do.


Study self faithfully and learn from any circumstance and situation,learn something new everyday my friends.
How are you doing on that?

Please leave your thoughts below.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

There is no luck except where there is discipline

There is no luck except where there is discipline

The man responsible for all this @Randy_Gage (and if you are not following him yet consider you missed your next glass of watter)

Was thinking......... what a great way to stay creative,motivated and to constantly be reminded to improve yourself and your results. It's called TWITTER.
Well, I guess it's the way we choose to look at it as well. If it wasn't for Twitter I wouldn't be writing this Blog post right now,wouldn't be already in a very good energy and frame of mind (by 5 am) or be inspired to take more action towards my dreams everyday.

All that is true but "There is no luck except where there is discipline"....we have to take action.

Yesterday I got another "Do you believe in the Law of Attraction" question...Now you've got to be careful how you answer that so I said: which part of it do you refer to?.....The part where you just sit at home and watch "The Secret" 11 times? No I didn't say that....
But definitely the first thing that crossed my mind was :"Let's be real kids sitting at home and watching "The Secret" 11 time is not going to make you more successful" as my friend Randy Gage would say (watch this vid.)

So that brings us to... let's start a new Habit this year - let's take responsibility and use our mind to create new ideas and take ACTION on the idea in stead of asking ourselves if the idea is right or wrong, this is not a very efficient way to create new brain cells.

You know, just having information we collect from outside sources go on and on in your mind is not called thinking...thinking is when we come up with a plan(new ideas) and take action daily toward our Vision,Purpose,Goals.
How are you using your mind?

As my mentor Bob Proctor would say: 2% of.ppl. think, 3% of ppl. think they think and 95% of ppl would rather die than think.

Please leave your thoughts below.