Tuesday, November 22, 2011

"Mr. X " is suppressing our Results.

"Mr. X" is suppressing our Results.

How we can talk ourselves out of our own winning Attitude?

How can we be wining in one area of life and loosing in another area and think that it works in some area of life and that it doesn't in another?

The Laws of this Universe are so precise we can send a space ship to the moon and we can time the landing with a precision of a fraction of a second.

These Laws work every single time in every situation in every area of life.

So what is this Power that stops us from reaching towards our Purpose, Vision, Goals?

This Power is called Paradigms or Conditioning or "Mr. X" as we will refer to it and it is very easy to get caught up in the trap.

"Mr. X " is controlling your thinking - and that is the reason why when you are not going in the direction you want in life, you think you're justified in doing what you are doing -you feel perfectly justified.

So, "Mr. X" is in control - this is so Insidious and it becomes clear/very obvious why so very few people win in every business in, every Industry - right now there are people wining hands down when almost everybody else is loosing ~ there are people right now that are doing very well in Real Estate - this down in business as we read everywhere has not effected them - in fact they start to look at it as a plus - because they start to notice that everyone started to quit so there is no competition.

But we can change that - all we need is understanding, awareness and willingness to do it.

You are making a Big Mistake if you are underestimating the Power of "Mr.X"

In our next post we'll take it a little deeper in How "Mr. X" was formed & why we have the Conditioning we have.

Please share with us your thoughts.


Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Leadership is : Sending people in a new direction towards a New Vision.

Leadership is : Sending people in a new direction towards a New Vision.

Leadership Is influence.

Leaders help ppl. get over their fear and give them a Vision that's worth failing for/worth taking a risk for

Effective Leaders build an Image of what they want to achieve, they don't look at their present circumstances and make a decision on what they think they can achieve based on that.

Effective leaders look for the circumstances they want and if they can't find them they make them.

True Leaders use their Imagination to build a magnificent Vision of what they want and continually aim at it ~

Einstein put it very well : Known knowledge is only going to take you so far ….IMAGINATION will take you anywhere

They hold the Image / the Idea on the screen of their mind and use their Intellectual Faculty (Will) to stay focused and start to move towards their Vision.

As they move towards their Goal their Goal starts to move towards them.

What do I mean by that?

The thoughts we are thinking are moving into form all the time.

The Law of Perpetual Transmutation states - Energy is always moving into form - trough form - and back into form.

There is tremendous power in thoughts.

What do you believe you can achieve?

What do you believe about yourself?

Please share your thoughts.


Tuesday, October 11, 2011

We can never change things by fighting existing reality.

We can never change things by fighting existing reality -to change things we creating a new model that makes the old model obsolete.

We are experiencing change that is unprecedented - everyone is experiencing change - the whole world is changing, but personal growth is a choice.

We have the choice to grow or to let the change control us.

I think we have to build New Models - for our personal life and for our Company.

If you are a Leader you have to stop and ask yourself : Am I providing the tools, the information, the environment to help the ones I lead so they can adapt to the change that is taking place?

If you are an entrepreneur or a sales person ask yourself : do I know how to deal with my thoughts about myself as a person so I can adapt to change and have the courage to continue to take chances, to grow, to change?

You know, in today's leading-edge environment it's very easy to get overwhelmed and stuck at so many levels, and if we do not look for new ways and tools to get unstuck - what do you think happens to our Self Image?

Yes, you got it right our Self Image takes a beating and over time we become weaker and we feel defeated.

Our Self Image has a very important role in the Results we get in life in all areas of life - be that financial, relationships, health etc.

Our Self Image dictates every action we take - every action we take is continually motivated by our Self Image and every action we take creates the Results we get in our life.

Self Image also dictates how we interpret other people's reaction to us.

Our Self Image also determines the Attitudes we adopt in any given circumstance or towards the people we interact with on regular basis (like our new prospects, our clients, our colleagues or our loved ones).

So how are you doing on that? How are you dealing with change?

Build your Self Image in a way that it will serve you- do not allow outside circumstances control your Results in Life.

Today, Self Development is becoming a necessity my friends or growth will be difficult and slow.

The purpose of a Goal is to become the person who will have it.

If you have a specific Goal that you want to achieve -find someone to show you how to create the mindset to reach it, to quickly become the successful person you want to be.

Please share your thoughts with us.

To our success.

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Know your power, believe in your power, and take action.

Know your power, believe in your power, and take action.

We can never get what we don't have - unless we are willing to do what we have never done.

No matter our level of success, wealth, and education, when we aim toward a New Big Bold Goal that we have never achieved before ~ we feel doubts, fears and flaws.

And, when that happens we get STUCK.

But understand that the feeling of fear or doubt is only a sign that you reached the end of your Comfort Zone nothing more ~ by no means this is an indicator of your potential.

It is simply your Old Conditioning trying to rationalize (ration lies) to your mind - trying to come up with very good reasons why you can't achieve your Goal.

Do you know that your only limitations are those you set up in your mind, or permit others to set up for you?

Your Results are a direct reflexion of YOUR Self image that is lodge deeply in your Subconscious Mind.

Results in all areas of your life are controlled by your actions and your actions are continually motivated by your Self Image. And get this, we can never surpass our Self Image.

What is Self Image anyways?

Self Image is - Image of Self or ~ what we believe we can achieve , it is part of our Sub Conscious Mind (or Conditioned Mind) and it has been transferred to us from generation to generation.

Our Self Image has nothing to do with us - it has to do with the Ideas that were going on around us as children, yet it is what drives us or stops us.

So, it would make a lot of sense to start to study ourselves , to start to understand how our Self Image impacts our Results in all areas of life.

Share your Ideas and how you think our self Image is preventing us from taking big steps towards Success?

Until next time ~ Live life like you mean it~

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Gathering information will not make you more successful - APPLYING IT WILL..

Gathering information will not make you more successful - APPLYING IT WILL..

In the past few days I've been thinking how can I give back a little to the community that really is committed to help everyone grow in awareness but more important - this wonderful community #Leadfromwithin is the perfect place to begin to Move Out of Your Comfort Zone / form new Habits / challenge the "Status Quo" / take time to look at the steps / actions we take towards our Purpose / Vision / Goals from different perspectives.

This is all very nice but here is the part I would really encourage you to hear : gathering information will not make you more successful - APPLYING IT WILL..

Just like reading a book - the purpose is not to just finish the book but what did you learn? What new Ideas from the book will you apply to your Goal, to your life?

It's not what we know that will take us the Next Level Success, to Increased Performance, to better Relationships, to more Prosperity in our Life but - What we do with that what we know.

So, if you forgot about one of your Goals you chose at the beginning of the year :) (as New Year resolution) let's choose a Goal.

What is the Goal you will apply new learned Ideas from #Leadfromwithin to?

And more important (just what I ask my clients to do) - what New Habits will you commit to based on what you learn each week from #Ledfromwithin ?

Because you see very successful people make thing they don't like to do "Habits" (when something becomes a habit we don't have to think about doing it anymore it's automatic)

Call to Action:

1. Choose a Goal that you will apply learned information toward

2. Each week make 1 Idea you learn a "Habit"

Live life like you mean it and keep playing to win!

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

High achievers....doing the wrong thing perfectly.

High achievers....doing the wrong thing perfectly.

Have you notice how even high achievers would rather do the wrong thing perfectly than try a new approach and suck at it until they perfect the new Habit?
We all know that "Sign of insanity is - doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different Result" - It's never going to happen.
Why do you think that is?
It is fascinating in how many ways our Old Conditioning / Self Image is trying to stop us from improving our results.
You see, we will never surpass our Self Image, our Self Image dictates every step we take.Our Self Image is like a Cybernetic mechanism in a thermostat - it's set to achieve a certain goal and until we re-set we keep achieving the same results.
Now, what is Self Image?
Self Image is Image of Self - what we believe we can achieve, what we believe about ourselves.

Your Results in any area of life are a direct reflexion of YOUR Self image that is lodged deeply in your Subconscious Mind - that would be your Conditioned Mind.

Your Results are controlled by your actions and your actions are continually motivated by your Self Image.

Therefore the Results we achieve in our life, in all areas of our life have nothing to do with how intelligent, how smart we are or our level of education.

Do you know people that are brilliant but they are broke and unhappy or depressed?

It really makes no difference how much information we have in our head - what really makes the difference is what we do with that information, that is what makes the difference - the application, how we apply that what we know. And the application of what we know is controlled by our Self Image.

All of us we know we can do much better that we are doing. Why are we not doing it?

For example: If you have a Sales Team -The high achievers in Your sales team go trough the same training, they sit in the same meetings with the rest of your team, they are exposed to the same information. Yet, why is such a big difference between their achievements?

Or the person that wants to loose weight - trying really hard, getting some improved results - then they go right back to their initial weight or in most cases they add some extra weight.


Our Self Image dictates where we are going in life. And until we correct, re-set where our Self Image is pointing no real improvement, no quantum leaps will happen in our results - and we get results in all areas of our life - health, wealth, relationships....etc.

Having the tools to re-set our Self Image is a crucial element to our Success, to improved Results, improved performance.

Self development, understanding Self, understanding the role of our Mind and the role of our conditioning in improving our results will determine how much your results will change in the next year and the year after and so on.

So if you feel that your results in any area of life have not improved dramatically doesn't matter how much you try, how much you work, how much education you have - the reason probably is your Self Image.

Please share your experience with us, and if you have any related questions please don't hesitate to ask.

Share your thoughts below.

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

How to shift from survival mode to growth mode.

How to shift from survival mode to growth mode.

Thinking is the highest function we are capable of - wherever we are there is an energy flowing into our consciousness - and that energy has no form we give it form - and we have the ability to choose if that form is positive or negative. And that's what thinking is.
Thinking is bringing form from nothing. It's putting it into something. Building a picture- an Idea.

We do not have to accept what IS coming at us from the outside - so when the information comes in we stop and think about it - ask ourselves - Is this information going to serve me? If it doesn't we can reject it.

With the Conscious Mind - using our Reasoning factor we can think about all the information coming from outside / we have the ability to reject Ideas from the outside - and do not have to buy into the Idea that we're going to have a tough time.

Do you know that Our Sub-Conscious Mind can not reject any idea - and it can not differentiate between what is real and what is imagined - it must accept everything we give to it - we can use our Intellect to make better choices for ourselves - If we are going to use our Intellect we should use it for something constructive - and if we're going to get Emotionally involved - we should get emotionally involved with the Image / Idea that we Originate - and we WANT.

Do not allow your environment or CNN choose for you.

Call for Action: Take this week and start choosing the Ideas that you get emotionally involved with. Do not allow your environment to dictate how you feel.

Let me know if you have any questions on this subject. Would be my pleasure to answer them.
Live like you mean it.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Change others...not at all. Conform...not at all.

Change others...not at all. Conform...not at all

Loving yourself a little more today than yesterday, and a little more tomorrow than today really is the most wonderful Journey, the Journey of personal growth, the Journey of Success in all areas of Life.
Loving Self allows us to walk around radiating inner peace,allows us to understand and love others in their uniqueness.
So, The Journey of becoming an effective leader for example begins with understanding self, loving self and leading self.
Unfortunately we have this habit of trying to change others instead of changing our own attitude.....How's that working for you? LOL.

Of course not very well.Focus on yourself, your attitudes and behaviour, focus on your relationship between you and yourself, will help you so much more.
As leaders we encourage and inspire change and growth, but others will choose to take part in a change driven environment or not based on our ability to motivate them.
An effective leader's job is to send people in a New Direction, towards a New Vision and that requires courage, understanding, motivation and trust.
I believe part of becoming an effective leader is knowing who we are and especially in this fast developing, leading edge environment Self Development is becoming a necessity.
Do you know who you are? Do you understand yourself?

Please share your thoughts.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Choose Beliefs that support where you are going in life.

Choose Beliefs that support where you are going in life.

What are beliefs anyways?

Beliefs are simply thoughts we keep thinking nothing more, they are not "The Truth" they are just something we told ourselves often enough, until we started to believe them.
Over our lifetime we accumulate many beliefs, some that support and help us and others that hurt us.
I find that the beliefs that hurt us the most are some of the beliefs we have about ourselves.
So how and why would I hurt myself?
Let me give you a little example : many years ago in your childhood someone said to you "You are so disorganized" or "You will never be like...",or "You are just like ....." so you hear statements like this a few times and then you start looking for evidence to support that statement, and of course because when you are looking for something you'll find it, you keep noticing evidence of that.
Little do we know that all we need to do is just stop affirming that to ourselves and start looking for things that we believe are our strengths.
If you are on the wrong track, all you have to do is STOP and find a better track.
It is in your hands and in your best interest to empower yourself my friends, or you can keep doing the opposite.
So what do you choose starting today?

If what you are doing isn't working the way you want it to work, don't be afraid to change it , start approaching it a little different.

If you want to do better this year than you did last year, you must choose thoughts and beliefs that will take you in a different direction, right?

So, starting today, compliment yourself, use superlatives when you think and speak about yourself, choose beliefs that support where you are going in life.
It is in your hands and it is up to you.

How are you doing on that?

Lorena Heletea

Friday, February 4, 2011

Life is an opportunity, capture it!

Life is about choices.
There are two ways to start our day. We have a choice every day the moment we walk out our home to go one or two directions.
We can be the person determined to have a good attitude because you know that if you have a great attitude you can be with people that treat you with dignity and respect and care about you or we have the choice to be negative, angry, mad and hostile.
The choice up to us.
We choose what attitudes we have right now. And it’s a continuing choice.

It's Wednesday morning, 5 AM Ottawa Canada snow storm (-?°C) i didn't even dare check the temperature, I'm on Twitter (one of my favorite places for inspiration) as well as TV turned on - news are coming in, updates, warnings - and most of us still at home comfortable, warm (some even grumpy/no caffeine yet :) or irritated about the storm and the mess is about to start), and I really started to think about it : here they are, a dedicated group of people that make a choice to be our inspiring guides at 5/6 AM everyday and throughout the day, to bring their good positive attitudes and their creativity into our lives, to do it with a smile on their face, be uplifting and set a good start of the day for so many of us.

Dedicating this blog post to you, all media - TV, Radio, News papers - special thank you to the ones i interact with on Twitter and keep me updated about Ottawa events and good music - @CTVCanadaAM , @neilhedley , @AMorningOttawa, @ErinLannan , @daytimeottawa , @EZBreakfastShow , we appreciate what you do everyday, we appreciate the fact that you leave so many people with a feeling of increase and a positive start of the day, you make it easier to start our day with a smile and a good attitude.

Most important lesson - you teach us how we should start our day :)

Choosing your Attitude /The Power of Thoughts

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you like to win, but you think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost,
For out in the world we find,
Success begins with a fellows will,
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can

Enthusiasm and belief can achieve more in a day than reason can accomplish in centuries.

To all of you for a very successful 2011.

Lorena Heletea
and i'm sure many others in Ottawa

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Don't wait for others to treat you better, treat yourself better.

Everything you see is a reflexion of your own Mental Attitude towards yourself.

Taking responsibility for your attitude, your behavior and results is probably the most important step on your way to improved Results in all areas of life.

When you focus on the negatives about a person or a situation - you are in the same vibration - in the same energy, that is the reason you notice what you notice about that person or that situation.

Every change in life begins with awareness and responsibility, you can not change your circumstances by blaming anybody or anything. Right?

Don't give your power away. If you blame, you allow others to control how you feel, to control your results in life.
When you blame you loose, you set yourself up for failure.

If I hear people say to me : But you don't understand she or he did this to me, or said this.....
My short answer is : Yes I do understand. But, does that change the situation in anyway? I guess your stuck then, aren't you?

People are so focused on proving how right they are about the situation they are in, they never get of that track, therefore they don't see they have choices.
You do have choices, lots of choices.

If you want to change your results, if you want to be a winner in life you must take responsibility for your actions, for your present results and your present circumstances.

How do you begin?
Ask yourself, what can I do different? How can I change my own attitude?
What beliefs/habits do I need to change? What behavior do I need to change?

Then go out and do it different, take responsibility for your results in life. Don't wait for others to treat you better, treat yourself better.

Empower yourself my friends. First and best victory is to conquer SELF.

How are you doing on that?

Lorena Heletea

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Soft Power Leading.

Leading with "Soft Power".....

When you enter a conversation do you expect people to agree with you or you would rather leave people with an impression of increase?
Do you like to grow in awareness , learn from a situation - and by learning I mean sometimes we can learn what to do other times we can learn what not to do, or you would rather keep learning the same life lesson over and over again.
Because you see in life we keep getting "The same" Lesson until we learn it - we can not move to the next level of success or prosperity until we learn the lessons we must learn at the previous level.
Me personally don't write blog post or comments on other posts so I get every one's approval - growth is part of life, growth is part of the journey we are on, growth is going from one goal to another towards our Purpose.

I love reading other people's comments so I can understand and a different point of view, so I can learn a different way of approaching a problem or a goal of mine - a different way of thinking.

Approaching something slightly different next time around will give me different results right? That being the truth I believe it serves me to stay open minded to new ideas and not stuck in the same kind of thinking that created my current circumstance, my current level of success.

I strive to do better this year than I did the previous year and the year before - therefore change is inevitable.

One of the things that changed my life dramatically in the past few years was - learning and understanding more about myself, taking responsibility for my actions, my results my attitude and my own behavior.

Now what has attitude got to do with my results?


A fascinating aspect of self development is I got to the point where by guiding my own attitude towards other people I can guide their attitude towards me....

If you are a Leader, you must understand that you your words will be better heard and understood if you guide people with your own attitude - which I call "Soft Power".

What approach to leading works best for you? What gave you best results?
In my next post I will get into this a little deeper.

Please share your experience with us.
To your Success.

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Shake off what most people might perceive as failure.

Shake off what most people might perceive as failure.

Talking to myself this morning, deciding what steps will I take today towards my Goal. And some mornings decisions are easy especially when things go your way and what you worked on gives you the results you expected... wright? You are inspired to take more action, that's when self-motivation is not a problem at all.
But what happens when for a couple of days things just don't go the way you wanted them to go, when it seams like everything is just biting you in the butt?
What happens then? How do you act, how do you decide to use your energy then, will make the difference and always has.
Passion, persistence, stepping out of our comfort zone, and most important getting back up after failure...these are the traits of a true champion! Getting up again and doing it different and better.
How do I find the inner power? How do I keep advancing? How do very successful people do this?
It takes confidence and self belief. You can have all the knowledge in the world all certifications, diplomas but nothing will help you if you don't believe in yourself.

Do you know you can have all the plans in the world - but if you don't work on your mindset you'll be stuck there for a while.
We must spend as much time on the MINDSET for SUCCESS as we are on the marketing and planning and all that which will be useless without the mindset for success.

The Success JOURNEY is one of the most profound personal growth Paths you can take.
And any new level of success you achieve becomes a new level of personal growth.

We all have amazing talent and potential within us.
How do you use yours?

Hope you give this some serious thought so you don't have to be stuck there for a while.

Please leave your comments or questions bellow.

Lorena Heletea

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.

Starting 2011 - we can get into it like a lost sheep or WE CAN Make up our Mind we are going to do it Big , we are going to do it Different.
So, I decided to go for the second. What did you decide?
The way I look at it : If what we are doing isn't working the way we want it to work, don't be afraid to change it , start approaching it a little different, right?
Sounds easy enough.
I mean Commitment to a New Goal it's easy, no big deal (especially for the first 2 weeks of the New Year ha,ha,ha) but buying into it, keep our commitment, creating new habits and beliefs not so.
Choosing New Habits and committing to a new way of doing things is an Art I would say.
So if you decided to do it different and by that I mean do it better and bigger this year, here are some aspects you could incorporate in the process, because changing habits is a process, a system.
1. Don't change things by fighting existing reality, to change things you need to create a New Model - that makes the existing model obsolete.
2. Write it down - make your commitment in writing, sign it and give your written commitment to someone you respect and trust - This is like a Policy against failure. Make 2 copies and keep one.
3. Read your commitment out loud every morning - first thing in the morning and just before going to bed.

And here we go getting into Habits again...hum, fun part begins.

P.S. Now make sure your signature means something, something as simple as keeping your promise to yourself will build or chip at YOUR SELF IMAGE.

Please share your experience with us and if you have any questions please ask, it would be my pleasure to compare ideas with you.