How can I change everybody else?
Life and human beings are so fascinating! So is self development.
Have been on a fascinating journey lately and I will share my experiences with you, maybe you have tested this to some aspect of your life, be that business or family and would like to share with us as well.
Couple of months ago some very powerful words hit me straight in the head,.again .... and this time I was ready to hear them with different ears.
"The people around us are like mirrors to us"- that implies that we can change the image in the mirror and we are in complete control of it and my friends let me tell you that is about the only thing that we can control in life, our own attitude.
My definition of ATTITUDE = Composite of THOUGHT + FEELING + ACTION
How we respond to every situation, to what people say or do is of Paramount importance when it comes to the RESULTS we get in all areas of life.
Before we go any further would like to talk to you about something that I had a big misconception about for many years and because us human beings are very similar what I'm about to say might bring clarity to your Mind as it did to mine.
- Nobody can do anything to us without our consent, what do I mean by that?
Nobody can MAKE US SAD, OR MAD, nobody can UPSET US - WE HAVE TO DO ALL THAT TO OURSELVES.
Please give this some serious thought, understanding this helped me immensely.
We do the things we do in life, some things better others not so good, not because we are bad people but because of our Programing our Conditioning since the day we were born.
We copy and do everything we see and hear from authority figures in our liefs as we grow up(our teachers, parents, grand parents, etc.)
So, my way of doing things is no better nor worse than yours.... IT JUST IS.
In other words when we think something like : " How can she,he do this to me? He hurt me so bad! The truth is nobody did anything to me it is simply my conditioning,my programing versus somebody else' s.
Important : When we talk to another person we don't talk to the person we are talking to their CONDITIONING, PROGRAMING, to their BELIEF SYSTEM and it's not what people say that will make a difference in our lives but how we respond to it.
Lots to think about, lots to analyze and this process will take time, we form Habits and Beliefs over an extended period of time, forming new ones or replacing some of the Old ones that don't serve us any longer will also take some time and effort, be patient with yourself.
So, how can I change everybody else?
Give this some thought and please share with us your take on this.
Will pick it up here in the next post.
I believe that understanding and guiding self is a very important part of life and have been doing that for the last 4 years on regular basis - everyday a dose of self development and it feels so good to be able to guide the mind (our vibration) in our daily actions. How about you?