Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Habit Changing Series - How to choose a Goal?

Habit Changing Series - How to choose a Goal?

It is always exciting to start a new Project,to start working toward a new Goal and even more exciting when there's new clarity,new tools to work with isn't it?

When we get to try something slightly different the anticipation is different because we ...
know that approaching something the same way over and over again will give us the same results,yet when we change some of the ingredients for sure some of our Results are going to be different.


So, when choosing a goal what do you think are the most important things to pay attention to?

Well, there are a few things we need to work around.

Most important of all I would say would be our Beliefs,our Paradigms.

And by that I mean what do we think we can achieve( or what is our level of awareness) - this has lots to do with our self Image and the barriers we and our loved ones place around ourselves.

Self Image = If you were raised with praises chances are you are very confident,if everything you ever did wrong was pointed out to you chances are that you are not.

Also very important I would say would be good old "FEAR" - and you probably are thinking...I'm not afraid.... well just think fear of failure and most people duck(what will people say if I try and I fail? Or even worse WHAT WILL I BELIEVE ABOUT MYSELF IF I FAIL?

Choose a goal that is big enough to be a stretch (because we need to get excited about achieving this new goal) but is not too big so it's too much of a stretch for your Mind.... that will stop you in your tracks before you even start and you'll come up with the best excuses why you can't possibly work toward your goal...today or tomorrow, etc.

Now,there are 2 kinds of goals: Emotional Goals and Logical Goals.

Emotional Goals - these are the kind of goals we are going to work hard toward.

Logical Goals - I say to sales people that choose Logical Goals-"You are gonna to raise skinny kids"

Example:

If someones Goal is- to lose 2o Lb.- now how exciting is that???? people think diet,starving themselves,running for 1 h. everyday etc. ....who do you think is going to look forward to that?

Yet, if we formulate the Goal something like this -Goal - to be fit by December 25 when I'm going on a 2 week hiking trip in the Alps with my friends - now that is more something to look forward to.

In other words our Goal needs to be something worth failing for.....something we get emotionally involved with.

In a later post I'll talk to you about how we need to have our Goals in the present tense.

Something else that would make a huge difference if you achieve your Goal or not,would be to ask for advise, but not from your neighbour or your mom but from experts.

Look at this scenario - You would like to get in shape but you didn't work out in 15 years and January is here - so you grab your gym bag and...you get there and you are intimidated by the big steroid head guy and you have no idea how to use the machines or what exercises to do/ what amount of wight to use. So you make the wise decision to start with 1 h. running on the Treadmill or even if you insist on doing a workout with weights but you have no idea of the intensity of a bagginess work out - what is going to happen?

1. You are going to be very,very,very sore the next day - so you don't want to work out anymore

2. Embarrassed because you have no idea how to use the machines or other excuses....

This is the reason why by Jan. 15 the GYM is empty..

Other Example: Your current Income is $75.000/year now to set a Goal for your next months income to be $1.000.000 that is a big jump.

Most people s Conscious Mind will have a hard time accepting this new Income we know that right?

But don't worry will have a great understanding how our Conscious Mind works by the end of this Project.

We'll pick it up from here in our next post. There is so much to learn about Habits,Beliefs,Goals that we have something to learn for the rest of our lives and that is the idea - never stop to learn and grow.

Please feel free to ask any related questions would be my pleasure to give you my point of view and also please give us your examples or your point of view so everybody can learn something new.

If you would like a little help formulating your Goal please send me an e-mail lorenaheletea@lifesuccessconsultants.com and pls. let me know you sent me one

Looking forward to your comments and success.

LH

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