Thursday, December 16, 2010

Do you believe it's Talent or Practice?

Do you believe it's Talent or Practice or Hard work?



If you rely on talent to get you there, will it get you there? Where?

Well, where you're going in life. Where are you going? What do you really want?

And before you'll be willing to make the kind of commitment that is required to get there my friend, you must have a very clear answer to that question.

So, don't read any further until you make a commitment that you'll take 30 min. today and write down the answer to that question.

Do you believe you'll achieve higher levels of success if you poses innate talent for excelling in your field?


OR


Do you believe very specific practice will get you to higher levels of success?

If you have the right answer and you believe that, there is a chance that you will do the work that is necessary to achieve high level performance, to achieve world class levels of success.


So what do you choose to Believe?

Please share with us your answer?


Lorena Heletea

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be.

Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be.

How fascinating.
While doing some Self Development, practicing some things....that I must improve in(I do actually have some of those) ha,ha,ha, I found myself just part paying attention to what I was doing, while another part of my energy was focussed on worrying about not making a decision on flight to beautiful scuba-diving destination "Corn Island"....

Re-focus Lorena, re-focus! So, I do, just to find myself off track again....Then the fascinating part happens.
This "little voice" said : It's O.K. Lorena, you always figure out how to do it in the end anyways.

Good "little voice"! Supportive, powerful,empowering, building on Self Image. But is this always the case? Am I always empowering myself? You know what mean?
Then I stopped to think: It might be worth making a habit of listening to what I say to myself in other circumstances as well. What do I believe about myself in other areas of life?
You know, our beliefs can make us or break us. Our beliefs can help us move towards our Purpose, Vision, Goals or in the opposite direction, or away from.
It is our BELIEFS that will take us towards higher levels of success in all areas of life.


Call to Action :
Take time today and think, I mean really think.
What are your beliefs? Your core beliefs? The ones that you act on without giving it any thought.
Write it down.

Will pick it up here in our next post and take next step, to replace some of our beliefs that don't serve us any longer.
Please leave your thoughts below.

Lorena

Monday, December 13, 2010

Giving 2011 another try the old way? Or you DECIDE to improve your Results?

Giving 2011 another try the old way? Or you DECIDE to improve your Results?

You know in your heart that if your don't change your approach to what you do, you will end up in the same place, getting the same RESULTS by the end of 2011. Right?
Remember the saying : Clear sign of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different Results.
You can DECIDE to change/ improve your results in all areas of your life , wealth, health, relationships, you have the power to make an "irrevocable DECISION" to approach your goals with a different set of Habits and Beliefs in 2011.
Do you think you spent enough time waiting for the economy, for other people, for your circumstances to change?
Tell you the truth : Nothing is going to change until YOU Change.
If you believe that everything and everyone else is the Cause or your problems your going in circles my friends.

It all begins with you. You'll be surprised how everyone changes when you change.

Call to Action: Take 15 min. today and write down what do you Believe about yourself, what do you Believe you can achieve.

Next post will talk about how what you believe about yourself will dictate how you spend your days, your years, your life.....

Please feel free to ask any questions you may have and share your experiences with us.

Lorena

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Here is the secret to success:  Work like hell!

Here is the secret to success:  Work like hell!

Self Development is becoming more and more my favorite thing to do. And if you frame the definition of Self Development right, you can make everything that happens during any day a Lesson / an opportunity to grow in awareness or as a human being.

A Lesson in what we want to Be or do, or a Lesson on what we don't want to Be or do.
Blaming other people or our circumstances, not taking Responsibility for our Actions, for our thoughts, our Results in all areas of life will just send you around and around in circles your entire LIFE.
We can't change other people. We know that....Right?
The only thing we can change in life is our awareness, how we approach a situation the next time around. In other words taking responsibility and approaching a situation or a person differently next time around.
The question is how do we grow in AWARENESS?

Well, Successful people get it done in one easy step… the extra one!

Study/Learn everyday, take time for Self Development everyday, Practice everyday.

And most important crate NEW HABITS continuously / habits that will take you towards your Purpose, Vision and Goals.


Practice becoming better at what you do both personally and professionally everyday.
Sounds easy enough?Right?
But, if it's so easy WHY most people are not doing it?

You were not Programed to do it "That Way", and a lot of the things you do must be Re-Programed, well that's if you want to improve what you do, improve your life, your success.

Most of us can't do it alone. We need mentors to help us look at thing from a different prospective, help us get out of our Comfort Zone on regular bases, create new habits, stay motivated and taking steps daily.

Call to Action : Make 2011 different, take a Quantum Leap on this beautiful Journey you are on. Life is short my friends, make the best of everyday you've got.

DO THE THINGS YOU REALLY WANT TO DO IN THIS LIFE.

Surround yourself with people that know where they are going in life,people that are going somewhere specifically, find a mentor to get you out of your Comfort Zone daily.

Make a decision to start TODAY you've already waited enough, you've been in the same position in life enough.
Grow , take the extra step my friends.

Share with us your commitment to do better in 2011. What is your first step?

Lorena

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Don't give away your power... Join "The 1%" Group

Isn't it interesting how we give other people and circumstances credit for our challenges in life?

 Don't give away your power my friends...

Have you noticed that there's the Group of people that I call "The 1% " that have the "Anything is possible" attitude, and the willingness to take action & they excel far greater in life than those who blame others for their limitations. 

"The 1%" choose their thoughts, their feelings and their actions. Always!

Call to ACTION : Starting Today make a decision to keep your energy focused on where you are going in life,on your Purpose, keep your focus on Improving yourself, drop yesterday's mistakes and just focus your energy on how you can do "Today" better.

  Write down one area of your life where you are limiting yourself.  Then, write out your dream results in that area. 



All the "Results" you have manifested in your life are a result of your thoughts.

  Talking to successful people provokes us to grow, to think biger, to think in dimensions in which the average person never goes to, change the direction of our life. Surround yourself with people that have positive attitude and know where they are going in life, who have a Purpose.

And remember focusing on what you don't like about you takes away any energy you have to change it.

Please leave your thoughts below.

Lorena

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

The Fixed Habit I need to create to achieve my Goal. 90 Day Challenge.

The Fixed Habit I need to create to achieve my Goal. 90 Day Challenge.


To improve Results in any area - be that taking our business to the next level, increase our Sales Performance, Weight loss, Improve our Relationship (s) - we must apply a few New Rules until their application becomes a Fixed Habit of ours.
Sporadic or occasional application of the Rules will be of no value to you.

The Achievement of any New Goal starts with Persistence. Persistence - is the essential factor in Changing/ Improving your Results.
The basis of Persistence is the power of WILL.

We must build an Image of our Goal and keep planting the Image in UR Subconscious Mind until the Image manifest into Form.
In other words forget the past, build a New Image of yourself and buy into it. We buy into it trough repetition, day in and day out.
And let me tell you my friends, that is about the only difference between the very successful and the not so....
The very successful are not any brighter than anyone else, they just learned to do day in and day out what the not so successful are not willing to do.

It is their PERSISTENCE that separates them from the rest.
In our next post we will be talking about our Intellectual Factors and how we can use them to take quantum leaps towards our Goals.

First Intellectual Factor - WILL.

Please share with us any ideas you might have.
Thank you.
Lorena

Monday, November 29, 2010

Are you still blaming others or your circumstances? Take Responsibility!

Are you still blaming others or your circumstances? Take Responsibility!
The A,B,C To Improved Results- 90 Days to Calmness & Self - Control

Taking responsibility for your actions is an absolutely necessary step for advancement, growth and #SUCCESS.
It is nobody else. This deal is between you and yourself, nobody else.
Whenever you have a problem the person you should talk to is always available for conversation.
As long as you are stuck blaming others for anything.... you loose.
Today - please take 15-30 min. and write down in what area of your life you think you are stuck getting "THE SAME RESULTS" - over and over and over.....year after year, after year.
Could be your Relationship (s), your Finances, your Health,etc. - write it down, then think of 3 things you know that if you would do different starting TODAY, those Results would change. Write down the 3 things as well.

Please write it down. Remember ! Who doesn't do step NR.1 will never do Step NR.2
We.ll pick it up here in our Next Post.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask.
We can all learn a great deal even from questions.
Thank you.
Lorena

Thursday, November 25, 2010

If you are not changing your ATTITUDE, you are choosing it....

If you are not changing your ATTITUDE, you are choosing it....



So, here we are on our 90 Day Journey towards Calm, Peaceful,more Aware Confident Self. In the next few months I will help you guide yourself towards better understanding why you do some of the things you do or why you don't do some of the things you want to do.

You know it is so easy to remain a victim of the past, and I have this conversation with many clients and friends on regular basis.

Unfortunately we have not been thought in school how to think, how to behave,how to understand ourselves (basic things wright?)
But even more important to take responsibility for our own Attitude and Results in all areas of life. And I promise you something as long as you think / blame other people or circumstances for your Results in any area of life you are stuck my friends.
As long as you believe that for you to get better you have to change everybody else or to send everybody else to the psychologist you are going around and around in circles.
DO YOU KNOW WHY?


Because you can only control your own Actions, Reactions and most important YOUR OWN ATTITUDE - nobody else's.

Let me give you a great example: Two days ago I was talking to one of my clients (she is very upset with someone in her life) - and she asked me : Well, what would you do if he did ........to you? My answer : First he didn't do it to you - nobody can do anything to you without your approval. Second - a few years back I would have done exactly what you are doing - today I would control my own ATTITUDE, mind my own business and wait for the person to raise to my own level of awareness.

The only level you should be debating at is your own. Because that is the one you are a "Pro" at. If you allow others the get you to their level, they'll beat you with experience.

So, what do you choose?

Do you choose to be right or you choose to stay CALM, CALCULATED, PATIENT?

Please share your experience with us so we can all learn.

Lorena

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

90 Day Commitment Write it down everyday

AS A MAN THINKETH
BY
JAMES ALLEN

Serenity

Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self-control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought.
A man becomes calm in the measure that he understands himself as a thought-evolved being, for such knowledge necessitates the understanding of others as the result of thought. As he develops a right understanding, and sees more and more clearly the internal relations of things by the action of cause and effect, he ceases to fuss and fume and worry and grieve, and remains poised, steadfast, serene.
The calm man, having learned how to govern himself, knows how to adapt himself to others; and they, in turn, reverence his spiritual strength, and feel that they can learn of him and rely upon him. The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Even the ordinary trader will find his business prosperity increase as he develops a greater self-control and equanimity, for people will always prefer to deal with a man whose demeanor is strongly equable.
The strong calm man is always loved and revered. He is like a shade-giving tree in a thirsty land, or a sheltering rock in a storm. Who does not love a tranquil heart, a sweet-tempered, balanced life? It does not matter whether it rains or shines, or what changes come to those possessing these blessings, for they are always sweet, serene, and calm. That exquisite poise of character which we call serenity is the last lesson culture; it is the flowering of life, the fruitage of the soul. It is precious as wisdom, more to be desired than gold - yea, than even fine gold. How insignificant mere money-seeking looks in comparison with a serene life - a life that dwells in the ocean of Truth, beneath the waves, beyond the reach of tempests, in the Eternal Calm!
"How many people we know who sour their lives, who ruin all that is sweet and beautiful by explosive tempers, who destroy their poise of character, and make bad blood! It is a question whether the great majority of people do not ruin their lives and mar their happiness by lack of self-control. How few people we meet in life who are well-balanced, who have that exquisite poise which is characteristic of the finished character!"
Yes, humanity surges with uncontrolled passion, is tumultuous with ungoverned grief, is blown about by anxiety and doubt. Only the wise man, only he whose thoughts are controlled and purified, makes the winds and the storms of the soul obey him.
Tempest-tossed souls, wherever ye may be, under whatsoever conditions ye may live, know this - in the ocean of life the isles of Blessedness are smiling, and sunny shore of your ideal awaits your coming. Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. In the bark of your soul reclines the commanding Master; He does but sleep; wake Him. Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power.
Say unto your heart, "Peace, be still!"

90 Day Commitment
Write it down everyday / think about it / apply it – miss 1 day – start from the beginning

AS A MAN THINKETH
BY
JAMES ALLEN
Last Chapter

90 Day Self Development Calm, Confident Challenge

90 Day Self Development Calm, Confident Challenge

My life changed dramatically when I decided to improve my own Attitude. Both in business and in my relationships.

You know, staying calm under any circumstance is a choice, self-control is a choice.
As adult, thinking human beings we can make that choice.
First place to start is awarness. In my case I started to be aware that I could do a better job in some areas like : being more patient, more understanding, and most important guiding my own attitude.
As we all know, making a Commitment it's easy, but living into it not so.
To keep a commitment requires daily self development,self study,new information in the area of human potential/ self development, understanding and aplication of the new information.
Studying with and being mentored by one of the most wonderful people on this planet Bob Proctor helped me understand that the only way to get to a more calm, relaxed, peaceful, confident me was trough creating a New Habit and replacing the old habit that was not giving me the results I wanted anymore.
Now the question is : how do we create a New Habit?
And the answer is: trough repetetion just like we created the current habits that we have, some good and some not so good.

The purpose of self-discipline is to build habits. Winners do daily what losers do occasionally as my friend Randy Gage would say.
So, some of the things I expleined above might give you the answer to why so many people fail at keeping a commitmen, any kind of commitment, like New Year resolution for example, or just our simple everyday promisses to ourselves like : I'm never going to do that again...fail.

So in the next 90 Days I will guide you towards improved, calm, confident, patient, more aware you.

Thank you for joining us on this journey.
So, to begin find here the page that we will all read, understand and apply.

If you have any questions or if you would like me to expand on a topic please feel free to ask. We are a team.
Please comment bellow.
Lorena
Today is my first day on WordPress so for now I'll have a post here as well as on Blogger, untill I figure out how to maximize this experience.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Endless planning to take.... Action!

Endless planning to take action! Or, I'll do that as soon as....

Do you find yourself in the position where you have lots of aspirations but you are stuck?
You have been planing for the last few years but another year has gone by and you are in the same place as you were last year....

There are many absolutely brilliant people that never take action, they are forever in a confused state.
WHY?
Do you think it is a Self Image problem? Most probably so.

Our Self Image will dictate every single move we make.

Now you might ask yourself what is Self Image?

Self Image is nothing more than what we believe about ourselves, what we believe we can achieve. And let me tell you something that you really need to know if you ever want to achieve higher results in life. You will never out perform your Self Image.

If you want to improve your results it just makes sense that you have to improve you.

First place to start is Self Development. To be able to guide self trough life one must understand self. All great achievers understand self, they take time everyday to grow as human beings.

Another very important step would be to set a goal that you don't know how to achieve. Goals are to grow, the purpose of a Goal is growth.

You have to go after what you really want. The prerequisite is you got to want it. And if you don't want it the first little bump in the road and you'll quit.So, go after what you really want.

Then I think your goals should be illogical, should be unrealistic, you've got to break trough that logic barrier that is controlled by your paradigm.


Call to Action:
1. Imagine yourself doing all the things you want, go wherever you want, when you want, hanging out with the people you want.

2. Write down How your Perfect Day looks like.


So, spend some time really thinking and writing and we'll pick it up where we left it in our next post.

To your Success.
Lorena

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Success doesn't happen by accident.

Success doesn't happen by accident, you must look for the circumstances you want and if you don't find them YOU MAKE THEM.

Napoleon use to say : Circumstances??? Hell, I make them"
So go out everyday and create the circumstance that are necessary for achieving your next Goal.
There's nothing better than setting and achieving meaningful goals - goals that bring people alive. But you know what is even more fascinating and rewarding? It is the person we become while working towards the big goals, vision, purpose.

Taking responsibility, taking action and recognizing that you can do something about the circumstances you might be in and that it is totally in your hands will take you faster towards where you are going in life.

Most people allow themselves to be overwhelmed and depressed, just blaming the circumstances, blaming everything and everybody and living life like this is a practise run and like they'll be able to come back and do it perfect next time around.

Most people don't understand one thing: "THIS IS IT FOLKS". We've got to give it everything we've got and live life at it's best, enjoying every single day to the fullest.

Understanding self and walking around everyday with peace of mind, knowing that we can totally control and guide our Attitude (Attitude is a composite of Thoughts + Feelings + Actions = Results) - can not be described, must be felt. Find a Mentor/Coach that will guide you toward that feeling of empowerment.

Success doesn't happen by accident, you must commit to put in time, effort and money to achieve your next worthy Goal.
Commitment is deciding that the price is worth paying for the goal that will e achieved.

Commitment is one of those things, realities that doesn't’t really take hold until is difficult….

Give your Commitment to someone - your Mentor/Coach and ask them make sure you do what you promised you'll do.
Being Committed and accountable to someone - is like an Insurance Policy against failure..


Have a clear understanding that we need to commit to doing what we want in life and if that is really what we want from the core of our being we'll figure out how to do it. And that to achieve bigger goals and to get into a bigger game it takes a Definite Commitment, it never happens by accident.

As you work toward your Big Goals enjoy your Journey of growth and prosperity. I sure enjoy every second.

May only good come your way.


Lorena

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Three steps to Change Your Income....

Three steps to Change Your Income....

You Don't have to figure out how to get there before you leave? Just START.....Start by guiding your own Energy.

*Choose your Goal

*Choose the thoughts that will set your body in the vibration that is necessary to attract the circumstances and the people that are necessary to ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL
*STAY IN THAT VIBRATION.

Do you know that your Energy is forever moving into form?
And guess what? You can choose if it's Positive or Negative Form.
YOU ARE THE ONE THAT CHOOSES/GIVES IT FORM.

All the great Leaders for Centuries have agreed that "We become what we think about" so wouldn't it be smart to choose your THOUGHTS carefully?

When we choose a negative thought, it is negative energy that leaves our body, that negative vibration can only attract negative circumstances and people in the same type of energy. How do you like that?



Winners, in life as in poker, aren't dealt better hands. Winners play the hands they are dealt better.

Very successful people EXPECT SUCCESS, THEY EXPECT TO WIN. They believe they can achieve everything they set their mind to.

Your Actions are caused by the vibration you are in. Think positive, believe you can do it. Now go out and ACT on it.....



You see most people are extras in their own movie. - You can choose to be the Director of yours....


Be an Achiever! Most people tip-toe trough life hoping they'll make it safely to death.
To Achieve better Results, great Success, to win in a BIG WAY we've got to get out of our Comfort Zone....Aim High in Life.


NR.1 Find a Mentor/ Coach

NR.2 SET SPECIFIC GOALS

NR.3 ALTER Your SELF IMAGE BECAUSE YOUR RESULTS IN ALL AREAS OF LIFE ARE ALWAYS A REFLEXION OF YOUR SELF IMAGE.


Example : IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR INCOME BUT YOU DON'T CHANGE YOUR SELF IMAGE YOUR GOING TO BE DEAD IN THE WATTER, IT'S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.(It is your Self Image that dictates what you believe you can achieve)


YOU SEE WE ARE ALL TRYING TO GET TO A POINT WE ARE NOT AT - WE ARE LOOKING FOR ANSWERS, WE ARE SEARCHING FOR ANSWERS ALL THE TIME....

"The first and best victory is to conquer self." - Plato

You are the one who wants better Results right? If you are in sales you are the one that wants more Commission. So doesn't it make sense that you will have to IMPROVE YOUR SELF?


Abundance is, in large part, an attitude.
My definition of ATTITUDE is the Composite of THOUGHT + FEEL + ACTIONS = RESULTS


First Laws of the Universe are ORDER AND MOVEMENT. Chaos, when left alone, tends to multiply.




The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.

The energy of the mind is the essence of life.

Sometimes in life you don't feel like a winner but that doesn't mean you're not a winner.

Please share your thought with us.
Lorena

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Listen : If you are not tough you'll quite.Weaklings quite.

Listen : If you are not tough you'll quite.
Weaklings quite.

How do I approach each Day!!!

The truth is You have to be involved in a Mission with PASSION otherwise your going to work!
Also You have to be one tough cookie if you are going to win in a big way….
As I very often tell my clients: If it would be easy everybody would be #Successful, everybody would be doing what they love to do most on this planet and actually get payed to do it.

The sad truth is only 1 - 3 people out of 100 do it…

Yesterday alone two people told me how lucky I was that I am my own Boss,that I don't have to be at work by 8 AM, I make my own schedule and how much they would love to feel the way I do about their job.

No man you don't, if you have to tell me about it you are not prepared to do what is required, you've got to be tough if your going to win in A BIG WAY. You have to leave victim hood behind a few times/a day, and when you hit a wall that nearly knocks the daylight out of you.... you must treat it like that was normal.... Wasn't it???? Ha,ha,ha. And very important: learn from your Lesson and keep going.

Oh, and almost forgot to tell you this and if you didn't LEARN YOUR LESSON you'll keep getting the same Lesson until you will learn it...
In any Project there are escape patches…and if U don't weld those escape patches closed I guarantee you'll hit them, you will.


And if your not strong you don't deserve to win. That's about the way it works.

So here's the answer:

What you do with your life is in your hands!!! We should only do what we absolutely love o do. We only have one life to live. This is not a practice run, THIS IS IT.
We don't get a second chance. Give it all you've got, do what your passionate about and do it with all your heart....

P.S. And if you are my client my promise to you is : I will not do my best - I WILL DO WHATEVER IS REQUIRED TO HELP YOU AND ME WIN IN BIG WAY.

To your # SUCCESS
Lorena

Please share your thoughts with us below.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Reshape your Confidence.The SUCCESS ZONE - Is a way of thinking

Reshape your Confidence. The SUCCESS ZONE - Is a way of thinking.


What is Confidence? How do you define Confidence?

For me CONFIDENCE is Belief in myself with every cell of my body.
Believing that I can do and achieve everything I set my mind to. The ability to give myself a command and finding the strength to follow trough. Take full responsibility for my actions and Learn from mistakes. Take Risks and always, always go the Extra Mile.

The ability to take action regardless of the obstacles in my way.
Choosing to always focus on finding the solution in stead of focusing on the problem.

But I think most important, constantly choosing to STEP FORWARD INTO GROWTH instead of stepping back into Safety when a New opportunity to Grow presents itself.

To achieve a New Goal - it's never possible without feeling uncomfortable - Why is that?

Well, to achieve a New Goal means becoming somebody we have never been before, becoming a person with a higher Level of Awareness.

How do you define CONFIDENCE?

Please leave your thoughts below.
May Success come your way in all areas of life.

Lorena Heletea

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

I think THE BIGGEST MISTAKE A LEADER CAN MAKE..& YOU?

I think THE BIGGEST MISTAKE A LEADER CAN MAKE… and YOU?

What an interesting variety of answers...wow, love it, love it - i think my level of awareness grew by 100 centimeters...LOL. See what it does to yours.



Earlier I was watching a very empowering video and you know as a coach my mind is just fascinated with the variety of points of view and definitions of words or phrases and how people see,understand or define the same word or circumstance in a completely different way.

So here are some of the answers of some great Leaders in no particular order.

NR.1 Being Certain.

As we know things are rapidly and constantly changing, things are unpredictable. We can't act as if we know. When you think you know u don't pay any attention anymore, why bother, you know it already. A Leader should learn to exploit the Power in uncertainty. (Love this one.)

NR.2 Betraying Trust.
Absolutely, I mean who will give it her or his best to someone they don't trust.

NR.3 Not living up to their values.

NR.4 Being so enamored with their Vision that they loose all capacity for Self doubt.
True, what are the voices you are disenfranchising.

NR.5 Personal arrogance.
Creates social distance and power distance - which is demotivating and could lead to big mistakes.

NR.6 Acting to fast before thinking trough the issue.
Take a step back seek advice and approach with a new VISION OF where you are going

NR.7 It's all about the Leader.
It has to be about something larger than yourself…

NR.8 Not being authentic and consistent.
Be the same nice human being at all times.

NR.9 Not be Self reflective.
Great Leaders are constantly reviewing their behavior, thinking about developing themselves and how their behavior effects other people.

My Opinion is:
NR.10 Being judgemental.
When people feel judged we loose all power to influence them. And as Leaders we have to send people in a New direction towards a New Vision.As a Leader you must influence the thoughts feelings and ACTIONS of those you Lead. And that requires a lot of understanding.

Please share your points of view below and if you are a Leader take a few minutes and reflect. Are you making any of this mistakes?

L.

Have a very Successful Year.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How do I change my focus from "THE PROBLEM?"

Replacing Conditioning for SUCCESS!

All Great Leaders have agreed that "We become what we think about"...

So why are there so many people that are extras in their own movie?

Take a little time today and think about the next phrase: To become more successful we must become the Director of our own movie....

But where do we start?

Well, Self development is a great place to start, understanding and guiding Self, letting go of resentment, focusing on finding the "Solution" not focusing on"The Problem" will improve your results faster than anything.

Two of my clients asked me yesterday: "How do I change my focus from THE PROBLEM?" I wake up and I feel down, I'm negative and sad.

Do we agree that we can not solve "The Problem" at the level of "The Problem"? Or that we CAN'T use the same kind of thinking that created the problem to solve the problem! Right?

I think it would be safe to say that we need to change our Attitude.



ATTITUDE is a composite of THOUGHT + FEELING + ACTION = RESULTS



As we know our Energy is forever moving into form, and we can choose if it's Positive or Negative Form...Everything "Just IS" - it is neither positive or negative until we give it form.

Our Actions are caused by the vibration we are in....an our vibration is caused by the pictures we think to focus on, we bring positive pictures to our Mind we think positive,we feel positive, we ACT based on that vibration.....WE GET POSITIVE RESULTS.

Probably some of you are saying....yes Lorena, easier said than done.
No, it is not but trough repetition can be achieved.

Stradivarius did not become great over night....like all great achievers he became great trough repetition, practice etc.

You see thinking positive, speaking positive, feeling positive, looking for solutions etc. are Habits that we create.

We create them trough REPETITION and PERSISTENCE the same way we created our Old Way of Thinking....

Just think for a minute, It took you your entire life to create the good "Old Conditioning" you've been using up until this point.... you invested a lot of years and energy in it,you have a lot of practice using it, you've put a lot of effort into it right?
The next question I usually get is: Do you mean it's going to take as many years to change it?

No absolutely not, but don't disappoint yourself by expecting to change over night.


There are no prizes for finding negativity .....we must find our positive way in life if we are looking to change the direction we take in life.



The opposite of Courage is not cowardliness it's conformity…..it's just moving with the crowd…doing what everybody is doing, doing what you've been doing your entire life.

So What do you really want in life?

Are you committed to make the changes necessary to achieve it?

Please leave your thoughts below.

To your success.
Lorena

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

How to form the 'HABIT' of making and keeping your RESOLUTIONS...

It is their Conditioning that will say "NO" to your offer...

How to form the 'HABIT' of making and keeping your RESOLUTIONS...

Any resolution or decision you make is simply a promise to yourself
that isn't worth a tinker's dam until you have formed the HABIT of making it and keeping
it.

And you won't form the HABIT of making it and keeping it unless right at the start
you link it with a definite purpose that can be accomplished by keeping it.

In other words, any resolution or decision you make today has to be made again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next, and the next, and so on. And it not only has to be made each day, but it has to be KEPT each day for if you miss one day in the making or keeping of it, you've got to go back and begin all over again. But if you continue the process of making it each morning and keeping it each day, you will finally wake up some morning a different person in a different world, and you will wonder what has happened to you and the world you used to live in.

Here's what has happened.
Your resolution or decision has become a habit and you don't have to make it on this particular morning. And the reason for your seeming like a different person living in a different world lies in the fact that for the first time in your life, you have become master of yourself, and master of your likes and dislikes by surrendering to your purpose in life.
That is why behind every success there must be a purpose and that is what makes purpose so important to your future.
For in the last analysis, your future is not going to depend on economic conditions or outside influences or circumstances over which you have no control. Your future is going to depend on your purpose in life. So let's talk about purpose.....

Ha,ha,ha.....in our Next Post we will talk about Purpose

Until then read this over and over again... make it a Habit


LH

Will tell you where this part is from...

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Surround yourself with people who shall make you what you can be.

Surround yourself with people who shall make you what you can be.


A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd." James Crook- in other words if you want to be a Leader you can't follow the crowd, the masses right? You must do it differently, you must be unique, you must go in a different direction, and leave the Status Quo( "statu quo") behind.

Are you a Leader or a Follower? You can be in either category, the world needs and rewards both...

Choose Today to start learning about you!I mean really know yourself.
How are you going to change your approach if you are using the same kind of thinking?

You see, as my mentor Bob Proctor(one kind, ready 2 help human being..love the man) would say "We've seen the enemy and it's us"(Pogo)....this battle is strictly between me and myself. It's me,me, my fault - nobody else's.
Under any circumstance the person I should have a conversation with is always available for consultation....(Me).

Nobody and no circumstances can hurt me without my approval! We allow another Person or a Circumstance to hurt us or not. But they need our consent.

Start recreating the person you want to become and the results you want to achieve in life : First Step - TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!!!

If you want to reshape Your Life you MUST leave "Victim hood" behind.

If you want to be a Leader you first need to learn to LEAD YOURSELF.

And how can I do that?

Well First Step - If I want to lead Me - I better know who me is....right?


I hear more and more people start on the Journey of Self Improvement!Happy for you!

Self Improvement has different Forms, but I tell you if you make Self Improvement a Habit,a Priority in your day...i mean right next to "brushing your teeth" - your on your way to a life as a "Magnificent Adventure"

My question to you today is: What do you really Want?

This is very Important so one more time: WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?


Please give this question some serious thought for the next couple of days, then come back and share with us, I will too.

Let's Start a make your commitment and let's grow and learn, support each other, keep each other accountable #Mastermind Group -


Throughout History all Great Minds, Great Leaders were part of #Mastermind Groups.

A #MasterMind Group where we can share BIG Ideas - and come up with ways to get to where we are going.

What do you say, are you ready to grow with us?A group of #Success oriented People?

Please say Yes.
If you did say yes - Take some time to think of a "Big Goal" you would like to achieve and an approximate time to accomplish it and "Make your Commitment with US", here on my Blog Post - say "I,m Committed" and then together we can come up with a Plan - when to start, etc.

Big Ideas are welcome....Looking forward to meet and learn from you.

Lorena

Failure and success both begin in the mind. ~S.Whyte

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Habits and Attitude will move you in whatever direction you choose……

Habits and Attitude will move you in whatever direction you choose……

Every time you fall, you can choose to fall forward…
You will bounce back…..maybe not to the same place or to the same you but you will bounce back...

One of the things most of my clients struggle with I find (all of us actually), is letting go of Old Conditioning, old Beliefs that don't serve them any longer, as a matter of fact it actually stops their growth and hurt them everyday.

Please give next phrase a lot of thought!

Don't live with the results of other people's thinking.P. Martinelli


What do I mean by that?

We have been Conditioned to accept many Limitations (we have been dragging some of our past into the Future.

You have the power to control what enters your Sub Conscious Mind, process the new information using some critical thinking and change the Old Conditioning.


Life begins when you are ready……not a minute before and not a minute after. A Sutcliffe

Have you noticed that a lot of people go trough life with what I call "Yes, but" Attitude. They allow past experiences to control their Present and their Future, control the way they feel....Makes me so sad. They don't seam to understand that they are in complete control of how they feel.

Everything other people say or do "JUST IS" is neither good nor bad, you give it Form....and you can give it Positive or Negative Form.



The greatest inspiration can be born from adversity so stay open minded and LEARN, then move on.
Back to balance, back to business and yes back 2 success….
In our next post we will talk about steps to Create a positive, winning ATTITUDE.

Please share your thoughts with us.

LH

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.

"I have had this thinking for so long… it just seems second nature". ….


Have you ever stopped to think how conditioned you are? How most of your responses are on autopilot, you don't even think about what you do or how you respond to any situation? You've been doing it your entire life…..so, you must be right!

You even hear people say things like: This is who I am!

Can you imagine? We define ourselves by our Conditioning, by our Beliefs and Habits.


Not so, that's not who you are. That's your Conditioning nothing else.And you can totally change that....

Tell you something even scarier - You and I are the product of someone else's habitual way of thinking - Your Subconscious Mind was programmed by someone who new very little about your potential.



Challenge you to take some time this week to think about my previous statements and then I have some very important questions that I would like to ask you.

How are you going to change you RESULTS in any area of life if you don't change your approach?
How are you going to change your approach if you are using the same kind of thinking?



Are you going to use the same old excuses and allow others to dictate your Results in life, in all areas of your life? Or are you going to start Self Development?


As my mentor Bob Proctor would say: A clear sign of Insanity is to keep doing the same thing and EXPECTING different Results.


Our thoughts keep us powerfully connected to Source and Self, Sanity and Sweetness.
“How are you creating your World?”

Join me let's start first steps towards Self Improvement together.

Know who you are and you will change your life.

Since I started Daily Self Development my life changed like night and day. I have never felt so at peace with who I am in my entire life and I as a result I have the time and energy to focus on where I want to go in life as oppose to where I have been....


P.S. All we have to do is understand Self and change our thoughts, so we can have Time and money freedom - to do whatever we want, when we want to do it and to have the money to afford it.

Isn't that what life is about? To do whatever your little heart desires?

Self Development will take you where you want to go in life.

Share your thoughts.
LH

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Are you stuck in the Past? First Step to get UNSTUCK....

Are you stuck in the Past?

One of the people I admire (a must follow) wrote a very cool Blog post @Randy_Gage
"How Programmed are You?" you can find the post here http://bit.ly/bPQDhn -
at one point he said:You decide you don’t like this trait in yourself, so you read a Wayne Dyer book and proclaim yourself cured. If only it was this easy…
We keep doing things the same way over and over again even when they hurt us for a reason Programing - Self Image and it's not going to change over night.

And you know something else, most people can't do it alone.

We are attached to our own opinions, to our own way of thinking, of doing things.


Let's find first Step to get UNSTUCK....

Just as every Company has a Corporate Image every person has a Self Image.

Science and Psychology has isolated the number 1 primary cause of Success or Failure and it is the hidden Image you hold of UR Self.
This Image controls your Mind just a surely as your Mind controls your Heart Beat -

If you want to know what kind of Self Image you have - you only have to look at your present Results- in various aspects of your Life.

Your Results in all areas of life - are the outer expression of your Inner Image.

As you start to alter your Inner Image - everything outside begins to change- and believe me it does, and it changes dramatically - I do live by this rule or Law of the Universe....

One of the greatest mistakes everyone makes is - they are attempting to change their income, their position, their business - their attempting to change something outside of themselves - without changing what is going on inside. And you know what? It's never going to happen.

Emerson said: - "Of what use to make heroic vows of amendment if the same Law Breaker is going to keep them".

How many times you hear people say I am going to change that....I'm never going to do that again but they don't change their Self Image and 10,20,30 year from now they keep doing it - because they never changed their Self Image.

Ex. Sales people know how to do a better job than they do but they don't seam to be able to do it, you know you can do a better job in your relationship but you don't seam able to do it.

WHY?


It is THE IMAGE YOU HOLD OF YOURSELF!

Trying to Change the Results in my life - in other words what is going on outside of me without changing what's going on inside - would be as foolish as trying to change my reflexion in a mirror without changing my physical appearance.

That's what people are doing - trying to change what is going on outside without changing what is going on inside.

And I know because until I found my mentor and this information I was one of those people.

So First Step to getting Unstuck is AWARENESS.

How do we increase Awareness?

Realize that The only thing that separates us from what we want is information….
Stop being a Victim of your Circumstances.

Create the Circumstances you need to achieve your Goals.

Bernard Shaw said : "People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in Circumstances. The people who get on in this World are people who get up, look for the circumstances they want and if they don't find them they make them".
So, stop fooling yourself.
Find a mentor and start studying, or you'll find yourself in the same position getting the same Results next year, the year after, etc.

Please share your experience with us.

L.H

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Move Out of Your Comfort Zone by improving Self Image

What do I have to do to change / change my Results?
Do I have what it takes to be a winner?
I have a lot of great Ideas but I never get any Results....

We reinforce poor Self Image…We perpetuate Self Doubt with dozens of Questions we ask ourselves everyday….


The Time to be a winner is Now not tomorrow - the key to being a Winner is to improve UR Self Image.

Avoid becoming attached to YOUR Opinions .....choose to grow....

Move Out of Your Comfort Zone by improving Self Image.

Make a decision today that what was, was and WHAT WILL BE IT'S UP TO YOU.

Your Self Image is your own conception of the kind of person you are. It determines what you believe you can achieve.

Your Self Image was very likely unconsciously formed from past experiences: your successes and failures, your humiliations and triumphs.

This Image you have of yourself will determine how you interpret other people's reaction to you and significantly affect your success in everything you are ever going to do.
Your Success in any undertaking will never be to a greater degree than the image you have of yourself.

The only way to improve our Results in any area of life is by learning about self, making Self Development an everyday Habit, learning new things, INVESTING IN OURSELVES (time and money) and most Important :It's not just about Reading and Learning - IT'S ABOUT UNDERSTAND AND APPLY THE NEW INFORMATION....

I'll leave you with something to think about....
Bernard Shaw once said "People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in Circumstances, the people who get on in this World are people who get up look for the circumstances they want and if they don't find them they make them.

Or how Napoleon put it very simple.... " Circumstances…hell I make them"

What are the circumstances you must create today to help you get closer to your Purpose, Vision, Goals?

Please share your experience with us.

LH

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

If we want different results, we have to be committed to change

If we want different results, we have to be committed to change.....

You know from my experience and just listening to people speak about themselves - what I hear is that they believe they are the person they are and they are stuck for life.

But as human beings we are designed to progress, to grow, to advance - everything around us changes, advances so fast that if we don't change and advance with it we are actually going backwards(there is no staying still).

Where do we start?
Well, I would say - Decide what you love to do and spend your life doing it...

Get out of you Comfort Zone - Change the way you do things, change the way you approach a discussion at work or in your relationship for example - one little change in your ATTITUDE will change your Results dramatically and you will take a completely different direction in life. Doing the same things the same way day in day out is boring.

Setting goals that you have already achieved and you know you can achieve? - there is no inspiration in that.
Set a big bold Goal that will scare you and excite you at the same time.

But see that's where most people are stuck - For your Results to Change - YOU HAVE TO CHANGE

Let me tell you something so, so true - to achieve a Bigger Goal - different Results in any area of life - professionally, relationship, financially, health - we must Change our Conditioning, we must let go of some of our most cherished Beliefs and Habits.

Only when our belief system changes, our world changes – our Self Image is changed....and most important our RESULTS change.

Don't forget to take it slow(be patient with yourself) because it took you your entire life to create your Conditioning(how about your last 4 generations) - because you know you inherited all kinds of Beliefs from your....grand grand parents, grandparents....etc. - so do not expect for that Conditioning to change over night - just because you made a decision on January 1 st. LOL

Choose a new Habit that you would like to change this week - think of something that you know that if you would do daily - your Results in your Business would change dramatically.

Me for example - have been on a Intense Daily Self Development Journey - there is nothing like understanding SELF / adjusting Image of Self in all areas of life -or learning how to control and direct my ATTITUDE in any circumstance.

This week's New Habit for me is - Get up @ 5AM to do Self Development and study (so I can improve my ability to do what I'm doing more effectively) 2h./daily -

How about you?

Please share your experience with us.

L.H

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be


Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be.....


               I know, it feels overwhelming but  I can say this to you from my own experience -  chaos, when left alone, tends to multiply....so we absolutely must start creating the Self we want to become. 
                  And don't just sit there and feel like you are a victim of your circumstances... you are not, you have infinite potential. 

                 You are not alone, it is normal to feel overwhelmed, you can't possibly know everything,  you are the best at what you chose to do for a living or what you are passionate about. 
                If you don't know enough about self development(and most people don't) find a mentor, a coach, someone who will bring clarity to your marvelous Mind, someone who will help you get out of your Comfort Zone and help you grow as a human being.

                Someone who will help you set specific goals and help you alter your Self Image -  BECAUSE OUR RESULTS ARE ALWAYS A REFLEXION OF OUR SELF IMAGE.....that is the ONLY  way to achieve Success or better Results in your life (Financial, Health, Relationships).

Really successful people are not afraid to ask for help when they need it.

              You must first see yourself Successful, feel successful, feel good about yourself, believe you can achieve whatever you want to achieve.


As Plato would say : The first and best victory is to conquer self. 

For Example : If you are trying to increase your Income without improving your Self Image you are dead in the watter.
 
You see, because Our Self Image dictates the Results we are getting IN ALL AREAS OF LIFE -  we will never outperform OUR SELF IMAGE...... 


SELF IMAGE = What we believe about Ourselves = What we believe we can achieve 

Next Post we'll take it a little further.....

What do you believe is the most important step in becoming more successful in life?

LH


Thursday, June 17, 2010

We tend to compare our weaknesses to other people's strengths..

               We tend to compare our weaknesses to other people's strengths...

                Can you describe your Strengths as well as you can describe your weaknesses? 

To remake your Self Image is to remake your life.

                    Our Self Image can be our biggest support or our most difficult challenge. How do you chose to see yourself?   

Success = Self Image

               So let's see how Self Image will control our Results in all areas of life and how we can use it to better our Results.

Our Self Image was formed by our past experiences.

                     Do You know that the smallest negative incidents(failures) from your past (1,5 10 years ago) can still influence your Results today and 50 years from now if you don't understand how that works and how you can change it?

Is that's what you choose to remember about yourself?

This is actually the reason I'm writing this blog post today.

             A few days ago while asking one of my clients  questions to determine where we are at (where we begin) she described some of her weaknesses with unbelievable accuracy.

             So I said, you know when we  learn how to describe all our strengths with same exact accuracy we are all set.  

You know why?

                It is because when we begin to focus on all our successes, our strengths, victories  - our Self Image starts to change - our feelings, our vibration starts to change and there for our RESULTS start to change. 

Thought = Feelings = Actions = RESULTS 

 

Your Self Image controls your Mind just a surely as your Mind controls your heartbeat. 


The degree to which you change is in direct proportion to the amount of truth you can accept and the amount of positive change you put into engineering your NEW SELF IMAGE.

Are you ready to change your Results? (financial, relationships, professionally)....

In our next post will take this a little further.

Please share some of your experiences with us.


LH


 


 


As an example will take our financial RESULTS. 


Tuesday, June 8, 2010

One cannot get New Results with Old Habits.....


One cannot get New Results with Old Habits.....Period. Do we agree on that?

                       In our previous post  http://ow.ly/1VMgm   we talked about Self Image and how that impacts our results and that the level of success we achieve in our life is directly proportional to the Image we hold of ourselves - our SELF IMAGE.


OK, lets see how to approach this and today we are going to apply the information  to our professional life.

Our Self Image is controlling the direction we take in life.


                  Are you trying to change your RESULTS? 

                  Let me tell you a little Secret: If you don't change the Image you hold of you, your Results are not going to change.

So let's take this little chunks at a time.....


Maxwell Maltz explains - Cybernetics is the science of control and communication found in animal and some machines.

You know it's the Cybernetic mechanism in the thermostat that controls the temperature in your home?If the temp. drops the thermostat will bring it back to where you set it.

Let's take an airplane - the automatic pilot is a Cybernetic mechanism - the pilot sets it and the Cybernetic mechanism keeps the plane on course - any deviation and the Cybernetic Mechanism brings it back on course


The Cybernetic Mechanism in human beings is Our Self Image.

It is  OUR SELF IMAGE THAT CONTROLS THE COURSE WE ARE ON


So, we said we will connect today's lesson to our professional life.

Example : If you are a Sales Person selling  $1.000.000 worth of product every year how do you think you can improve your sales when your Cybernetic Mechanism(Self Image) is set to achieve 1 mil.?

Or let's say you are an entrepreneur and you want to grow your business or if you want to interact differently with your colleagues at work how can you do that?

Well the only way is by changing your Self Image first. 

- If you don't change the Image you hold of you, your Results are not going to change because your Cybernetic Mechanism is set to achieve exactly what you are achieving now.


What are your thoughts about this? Please leave a comment below and in our next post we'll talk about steps to change Self Image.....


L.H.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Self Image - What do you really believe about yourself?

                 

                 

                 

                   

                  The level of  success we achieve in our life is directly proportional to the Image we hold of ourselves - our SELF IMAGE.

             WHAT IS SELF IMAGE?


SELF IMAGE is - what we believe about ourselves, what we believe we can achieve. 


This is all great stuff - but do you know that - we never deviate from this image unless we make a conscious decision to do so.



            We may be inspired to become experts by studying the successes and failures of others.  But we actually BECOME experts when we experience our own successes and thrive through our challenges.

Kenya K


Most people live and die and never fully understand the Power of Image Making.


                           The Image you hold of yourself is a foundation upon your entire personality is built.


                            This Image not only controls your behavior it also control your circumstances as well.


                             "What we believe, we achieve."  or  "The me I see is the ME I'LL BE"


And HABIT can be a Prison. 

What do you believe about yourself? What do you honestly believe you can achieve?


                    Take some time over the weekend and give this some serious thought. Write it down, and in our next Post will talk about some tools that will help you Create The Image of our Self that will help you reach New Levels of Success.


Please share with us your experiences.

L.H




 

           


      

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Emotional Surgery? Learn to be your own plastic Surgeon!

Emotional Surgery?

Learn to be your own plastic Surgeon!

               We are a composite of hearth-aches and happiness of miss fortunes and good luck ...and we must realize that frustrations are there for us to rise above them and to turn them into a productive force of confidence. 

What is CONFIDENCE?  - is our capacity to rise above a mistake said M Maltz

             For a more successful life we must learn to remove some of our emotional scars within us that we put there ourselves.

Great example of the best plastic surgeon is @Randy_Gage  you can read his phenomenal Blog Post  http://su.pr/2zVevd 

We must learn to be our own plastic Surgeon! M Maltz

How can we do that?

Well, first place to start is to learn about self, understand self and most important to guide self.And we all have the ability to do that.

What do you know about yourself? Make sure you know something very nice about yourself...

             We all have a combination of good and not so good memories, combination of failures and successes and we all have the ability to choose what are we going to focus on when we start our next Project or when we work toward achieving our next Goal or even more frequent when we start each and every day.

                It takes as much effort to remember our successes as it takes to remember our failures. What do you choose for today? 

               HOW DO YOU USE YOUR MEMORY TODAY?

Us human beings, operate based on our Self Image and we never deviate from that image, we do that in every area of our life, be that in our professional or personal life.

Self Image is - what we believe about ourselves, what we believe we can achieve.


Very Important  - The Results I'm getting today are exactly as the picture I hold of myself....remember one of the good pictures from your past

            So, for today take 5 minutes and remember some of your successes, some of the times you have been a victor.... and write them down.

Please share your thoughts with us.

Next time we'll look at Self Image a little deeper.

L.H.






 

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Change your RESULTS by conquering self .....

Change your RESULTS by conquering self ..... 


                 In my previous post "How can I change everybody else?"  http://ow.ly/1QzTx  I talked to you about being on a fascinating journey in the last two months. Have been growing as a human being in the last 2 months more than ever before, and believe me I have never seen people around me "Change so much".... LOL


                 Today I will share with you one of the phrases that I live by and please read it carefully multiple times it is very powerful: 

  • There is NOTHING on the OUTSIDE OF YOU that can ever help you or hurt you - it is what's on the INSIDE that counts.

                 So, where do I begin?


                Let's take the word "RESULTS" because this is what we get in every area of our life - professionally, in our relationships, our health, wealth etc. we get RESULTS right?


               Thoughts ---> Feelings ---> Actions  =  RESULTS

               What do I mean by this?

               We think certain thoughts, this causes us to feel a certain way, causes us to ACT a certain way -- and gives us the RESULTS we are getting.   Pretty cool  explanation right?


                Any aware person would like to better their RESULTS ( in some or in all areas of Life)..... and if this is you please write the next phrase down and start testing it:

               "To change MY RESULTS, first I have to change MY THOUGHTS, which then will change my FEELINGS and ACTIONS"


                Please share your thoughts below and we will pick it up here in our next post.


P.S. Fascinating, one of my favorite people on this Planet @Randy_Gage   wrote a Blog post http://ow.ly/1QCfO  on the same topic "Are you taking responsibility for your marriage, friendships and other relationships? Or are you playing the blame game about your partner?" 

You don't want to miss his Blog Posts - He is AMAZING. 

L.H.


                


                 






   


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Wednesday, May 19, 2010

How can I change everybody else?

How can I change everybody else? 

Life and human beings are so fascinating! So is self development.

      

                 Have been on a fascinating journey lately and I will share my experiences with you, maybe  you have tested this to some aspect of your life, be that business or family and would like to share with us as well.         

Couple of months ago some very powerful words hit me straight in the head,.again .... and this time I was ready to hear them with different ears. 

                 "The people around us are like mirrors to us"-  that implies that we can change the image in the  mirror and we are in complete control of it and my friends let me tell you that is about the only thing that we can control in life, our own attitude.

                   My definition of  ATTITUDE = Composite of   THOUGHT + FEELING + ACTION

                   How we respond to every situation, to what people say or do is of Paramount importance when it comes to the RESULTS we get in all areas of life. 


                 Before we go any further would like to talk to you about something that I had a big misconception about for many years and because us human beings are very similar what I'm about to say might bring clarity to your Mind as it did to mine.

- Nobody can do anything to us without our consent, what  do I mean by that?

                   Nobody can MAKE US SAD, OR MAD, nobody can UPSET US -   WE HAVE TO DO ALL THAT TO OURSELVES.

Please give this some serious thought, understanding this helped me immensely.

                  We do the things we do in life, some things better others not so good, not because we are bad people but because of our Programing our Conditioning since the day we were born.

                   We copy and do everything we see and hear from authority figures in our liefs as we grow up(our teachers, parents, grand parents, etc.)

So, my way of doing things is no better nor worse than yours.... IT JUST IS.

           In other words when we think something like : " How can she,he do this to me? He hurt me so bad!  The truth is nobody did anything to me it is simply my conditioning,my programing versus somebody else' s. 

           Important : When we talk to another person we don't talk to the person we are talking to their CONDITIONING, PROGRAMING, to their BELIEF SYSTEM and it's not what people say that will make a difference in our lives but how we respond to it.

           Lots to think about, lots to analyze and this process will take time, we form Habits and Beliefs over an extended period of time, forming new ones or replacing some of the Old ones that don't serve us any longer will also take some time and effort, be patient with yourself. 

So, how can I change everybody else?

Give this some thought and please share with us your take on this.

Will pick it up here in the next post.


I believe that understanding and guiding self  is a very important part of life and have been doing that for the last 4 years on regular basis - everyday a dose of self development and it feels so good to be able to guide the mind (our vibration) in our daily actions. How about you?

LorenaHeletea



 

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Never allow what hurts you, to damage you ....

Never allow what hurts you, to damage you ....

Very true...hard thing to do! is the answer I hear the most.

You know, growing in awareness, learning about self, understanding self and guiding self in life are some of the few things in life we have complete control over.
Our Attitude will shape our life(5,10,15 years from now) and our Results in all areas of life - and we can shape that little by little everyday.

How I approach something that hurt me? To make a better point will give you an example.


Just yesterday while reading a Great Blog post by @Randy_Gage "Protecting Yourself from Crazy People" http://bit.ly/aokXSv became aware that I was allowing something that was hurting me to damage me...

As I was reading realized that I'm doing a great job protecting myself from everyone except people I love and are closest to me.
Have no problem standing up for myself and walking away from allowing crazy people to drag me down to their level and then beat me with experience, yet not doing such a great job when it came to loved ones.

So first step became aware, then made a decision to read Randy's post once a day for a month so I keep it fresh on the screen of my Mind and start carving away...

As human beings we were blessed with Intellectual Factors and we have the ability to change anything in our life including Self, Old Beliefs, Habits and Attitude.

And yes it takes time and commitment but we can sculpt exactly the person we want to become...

We do that trough repetition - the exact same way we created all the good or bad Habits and Beliefs we have TODAY.

Please share your experience with us on this topic. How do you deal with something that hurts you?

Lorena

Thursday, February 25, 2010

The way we've always done it's usually the reason we're in the mess we're in....

The way we've always done it's usually the reason we're in the mess we're in....

You know something? If you ever hope to become more successful in any area of life you have to know that awareness gives meaning to life. Awareness will be reflected in our results.

The awareness we are seeking requires replacing old conditioning. Our old Conditioning, these old Ideas are holding us back and don't allow us to grow.

Take some time for the next 2 days and think about some of your Old Ideas,Conditioning that keep you stuck where you are. Once you've done that and understood that in order for you to get new Results you got to be open minded and start letting go of old Habits, you took your first step towards a more successful life.

The shape of your life is determined largely by your ATTITUDE.

Successful people are people with great attitudes, they expect success and get success.


ATTITUDE IS A COMPOSITE OF THOUGHT, FEELING and ACTION

Successful people choose their thoughts carefully and are consciously aware of their actions.

The only way to improve the results you are getting in life is to take full responsibility for your ATTITUDE.

The smallest change in your attitude will dramatically affect where you will be five years from now.

Do not allow Old Conditioning keep you stuck.... because it will... Find a Mentor and start...Changing and creating Habits is a lifestyle ....


Keep learning and improving self... it is the only way to SUCCESS...

Leave your thoughts please so we can all learn from your experience....

Lorena

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

"Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be."

"Stop seeing yourself the way you are; start seeing yourself the way you want to be."

You know most people look at their present RESULTS and allow current RESULTS dictate their future...

My advice to clients is: don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.

We were programed to think from the outside in, in other words we listen to TV or Radio, to conversations around us - which are usually about how bad The Economy is and how something can't be done and we allow that to influence our thinking.


As adults we have the ability to study Self and understand that we can reprogram our Mind, that we don't have to continue doing things the way we have always done them. We have the ability to choose brand New Habits and Beliefs...
Do you realise that the way you've been acting and thinking since the day you were born it is simply your Ancestors' way of Thinking and Acting?
It is not who you are, it is an unwanted 'PRESENT' from your environment.
Some parts of the 'PRESENT' are better than other parts, pretty sure you know what I mean.

Today, writhing just to encourage you 'STOP' for a few... and THINK, analyze how you've been doing things and the reasons you've been getting the RESULTS you've been getting in ALL AREAS OF LIFE.

Just a few years ago I was not aware of the fact that 'I don't have to behave,act,think,respond' like my mother or my father do...I can create a brand New ME., a unique ME.
How did I do that?
Continuing where we left it in our previous 2 posts http://su.pr/2VXNfU

Us, human beings were blessed with 6 Intellectual Factors, today's 2 Factors that we can use to create a brand New Us and Results in every area of life are :

Perception - This is your point of View. You can use this ability that was given to you to shift your perception to change your RESULTS.

Imagination - As children we are highly creative. As we get older, we put a lid on our creative Potential. We can use this ability to dream and develop ideas.

Can't tell you in words how much my life has improved since I started to study this vital information. Self Improvement is a continuous process - most people finish school and they think they are done learning....think again.
Understanding and Improving Self is the only way you can improve your RESULTS in life, you can become more Successful....

What are the Habits that you inherited from your Family that keep you stuck getting the same Results in life that you've been getting?
What are the Beliefs that you hold on to that don't serve you anymore?

Please share your experience with us below and know that there is something you can do to change some of your Thoughts,Habits, Beliefs that keep you stuck in the same circle.

Next post? I guess you'll just have to come back to find out.

Create your Success.
Lorena

Friday, February 5, 2010

Don't just keep doing what you've been doing...You'll get the SAME RESULTS!

Don't just keep doing what you've been doing...You'll get the SAME RESULTS!

To get different RESULTS today than yesterday you'll have to bang your head in a different wall.
In other words if we approach what we do the same way over and over again we'll keep getting the SAME RESULTS as we did yesterday.

Best I can relate this to my childhood - thinking back my mom and I used to have the exact same arguments over and over again. Or looking at mom and dad they use to have the same discussions that would end with the same RESULTS every time.
I mean, for sure you know people in your family that 20, 30, 40 years later have the same arguments.

Now why is that? Well, if we don't change the way we approach any problem or conversation...guess what, the answer will be the same as yesterday.
It's called a HABIT, we are in the Habit of doing things. We don't give our actions any conscious thought any longer.

Habits are expressed automatically, once something passed our Conscious Mind and it's implanted in our Sub-conscious Mind it just keeps expressing itself until we make a conscious decision to change them.

This is the reason why Habits are not easy to Create or Change.
Well, most people are not even aware that they have the ability to change something in their life.
This is the reason why people make short lasting" NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS" - to lose weight, to start own business, to improve relationships, to improve sales(if they are in sales), etc...

A Habit that has been programed in Our Subconscious Mind since childhood takes awareness and REPETITION to Change.....It took us how long to create that Habit??? (10,20,30...years to create it) it's kind of silly to expect to wake up January 1 and expect to have brand new HABITS created over night.

But we have the Habit to allow ourselves to get disappointed over and over again because we don't make the commitment to and the investment in ourselves.

Self improvement should have same importance as eating or brushing our teeth....Well, not unless we are happy to get the same RESULTS in any area of our life.

As adults we can create the awareness that is required to improve anything in our life.

Sow where do we start?

In our last post http://su.pr/47IqPB we talked about our Intellectual factors and today we can start learning to change Habits by using other of our Intellectual factors.

WILL - We have the ability to hold one picture on the screen of our Mind to the exclusion of all else. This is our ability to concentrate.

MEMORY - We all have a perfect memory. We can improve it trough practice.
We can remember all our failure and focus on them or WE CAN REMEMBER ALL OUR SUCCESSES AND VICTORIES and focus on those.

These thoughts are from "The Goal Achiever" http://ow.ly/12XnZ - my mentor Bob Proctor

So, if you would like to achieve different RESULTS in life you can only achieve them by creating NEW HABITS it doesn't happen any other way....
And it all happens in OUR MARVELOUS MIND ... because it is the mind that sets the body in action.

What Habits do you believe you need to Change or Create to achieve better(different) RESULTS in your life?

In what area of your life you feel you keep getting the same RESULTS and you know you need to change?

Time to change the wall you bang your head into...cuz you will...but failure is part of SUCCESS..

Home work for today: Write down 3 things that you know that if you start changing today your life will improve....

Share your thought with us bellow...

Lorena Heletea

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

It takes as much stress to be a success as it does to be a failure....

It takes as much stress to be a success as it does to be a failure....

Lets continu where we left it in our last post http://ow.ly/12W0k please read so you can benefit more from this post.

So, because as little kids we were programed to gather our information trough our physical factors they are like little antenna and are to: See ,Taste, Hear, Smell and Touch people listen to all the bad news on TV, listen to conversations around us exmpl.: why something can't be done - (please promise you will start to choose the people you surround yourself with) - people look at their current situation and take that as reality.

Well, it must be true right?

Well NO!

We can create our own reality regardless of current Results. We have infinite potential.We can achieve whatever we want in life.
You see the way we ACT (the things we do on regular basis) our beliefs and our habits or better said our ATTITUDE is what gives us the Results we are getting in life.

ATTITUDE is a Composit of THOUGHT - FEELING - ACTION = RESULTS

So, if we look at our RESULTS we Think a certain way, we Feel a certain way, we Act a certain way and those are the kind of Results we are going to keep getting because we believe that is what we can achive.

The MIND controls the Body.

What you think dictates your RESULTS.


The thoughts or images you consciously choose automatically IMPRESS upon your Sub-Consciuous and then move your body into action.

The actions with which you are involved, determine your RESULTS.
THOUGHT> FEELINGS > ACTIONS > RESULTS

These thoughts are part of our "The Goal Achiever Program" http://ow.ly/12XnZ


So until our next post please start paying attention to the kind of images you choose to allow to your Sub-Conscious Mind... your Results and achieving your Goals depends on it.

There are better ways to collect information than trough our physical factors and that is trough our Intellectual Factors.

All together we were blessed with 6 Intellectual factors and today we will describe first two which are: REASON and INTUITION

REASON - This is our ability to think. It separates us from all other beings. We take thoughts, develop plans (take action) and create RESULTS.

INTUITION - This is our ability to pick up vibrations from other people or circumstances. This allows you to tap into vibrations, hunches and feelings.

Please leave a comment about your experiences so we can all learn from each other.

In our next Post will talk about PERCEPTION AND WILL and how we can use them toward achieving any Goal we set our Mind to achieve.

Until next time... great success
Lorena Heletea

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know...

It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know...


or Bruce Lee way: "I can teach you what I know but you have to let go of what you know"

So true, in order to become more successful or to achieve more in life we have to be open minded and willing to learn everyday,study faithfully everyday and apply what we learn to some area of our life.
Just because we finished school it doesn't mean we have to stop learning.
For some years of my life I had the "I know that" Attitude.... without understanding why I was doing it or how it was affecting my life.

So, how and why I woke up?

Today I call them "Lessons"(Life Lessons)....realized that I was getting the same "Lesson" over and over again but because I chose not to listen or learn from it...I kept signing up for another "Lesson"
Now, can smell from far away when I'm about to get another lesson and don't sign up anymore, actually trying to help friends to do the same,but we can't,everyone needs to do that on their own when they have signed up and got enough "Lessons"then they are ready to keep paying for the same lesson.

Interesting part about changing my attitude was realizing that the person I was hurting the most by choosing not to "listen"was ...you guest it "ME (there is a big difference between hearing and listening - we hear with our ears and we listen with our emotions).
We don't do this on purpose to ourselves obviously and thinking back my reason for not listening was.... "I didn't ask for anybody' s opinion" (felt like I was back in my childhood when my sweet mother used to "order me" to do something, and couldn't get her to understand that the stubborn kid will not do it until asked nicely... that was a lot of fun :) ) .....Oh, that's where the resistance came from.

As an adult the word "Opinion" means something very different to me.

Whatever another person said to me it is simply their opinion nothing more, don't have to accept that as my reality and can use"my marvelous Mind" to decide if I accept or reject the information, but must be open minded.
One of my rules is, I don't take advise from someone just because they are willing to give it to me, I ask myself "Does this person know what he/she is talking about?" Then consider what to do with it.
In order for us to grow in awareness and to understand self better we have to constantly challenge our old beliefs, we have to have new information coming in.
Studying and learning faithfully everyday for the past few years about the human mind and behaviour, helped me understand why all that fear of other people "telling me what to do" and it makes a lot of sense.
As little kids we were programed to gather our information trough our physical factors they are like little antenna and are to:

  • See
  • Taste
  • Hear
  • Smell
  • Touch

We were tought to: "Listen to what your father said", "Watch what your older brother does" etc...
Old programing if not recognized and corrected keeps us going nowhere FAST....and gives us the same Results over and over again in all areas of life.
There is a better way to collect information and that is trough our Intellectual Factors which are:

  1. Reason
  2. Imagination
  3. Intuition
  4. Perception
  5. Memory
  6. Will

They are like mental muscles and we can develop them trough repetition.
Andrew Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Ford and all big achievers used them to accelerate their success.

Next Post: will give a definition of each one of them and we'll talk about how we can develop and use them to set and achieve our goals,change old habits,walk towards success faster.
Getting a good understanding of these factors and how we can use them will accelerate our success in any area of life.


Please share with us your experience and how you feel your old unrecognized beliefs kept you going in circles life so we can all learn from your experience.
Lorena

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing...

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing....


You know it is so easy to remain a victim of the past, and I have this conversation with many clients and friends on regular basis.

Unfortunately we have not been thought in school how to think, how to behave,how to understand ourselves (basic things wright?)

I mean Math and History and Geography is great stuff but if you don't know what to do with yourself in life how does all that help you?

We were not thought what self image, self esteem, self motivation, self confidence is...

Therefore so many people can't look you in the eyes and give you a powerful hand shake - clear sign of lack of confidence... some of you might say ...o big deal - oh, yes it is - in more ways than you can imagine.

You know the expression....We never get a second chance to a first impression?

Probably you lost your job interview at hand shake....A good leader has great Intuition and will sens your lack of confidence in 2 sec. flat and this is just one example.

Another very important aspect of life that we were never explained is that as adults we have the power to change our Habits that don't serve us any longer.

As children we copy what our parents do and say we know that, then as adults we continue....

I used to hate my mothers nagging growing up....and guess what? I grew up to do exactly what I hated ....we don't do that because we are bad people, it just feels normal and familiar,we copy authority figures in our lives.

So, as an adult I took responsibility for my actions and decided that what I didn't like probably nobody else liked and change it.
Yes, it takes awareness and commitment but trough repetition we can change any Habit (I mean it took us 15,20,25.... years to form that Habit it's not going to change overnight) but the same way we formed that Habit we can form another.

But you have to know that it takes awareness,understanding, self study and self control.....and it also takes leaving victim hood behind and taking responsibility for our actions.

Most of us can't do this on our own, we all need guidance,mentors,help,we need someone to challenge our beliefs so we can brake trough our Barriers. Until we do that no major changes will happen in our lives.

As adults we have the ability to choose and to control our ATTITUDE....
We can control how we do the things we do.

ATTITUDE IS A COMPOSITE OF : THOUGHT + FEELING + ACTIONS

Study self faithfully and learn from any circumstance and situation,learn something new everyday my friends.
How are you doing on that?

Please leave your thoughts below.
LH

Thursday, January 7, 2010

There is no luck except where there is discipline

There is no luck except where there is discipline

The man responsible for all this .....is @Randy_Gage (and if you are not following him yet consider you missed your next glass of watter)


Was thinking......... what a great way to stay creative,motivated and to constantly be reminded to improve yourself and your results. It's called TWITTER.
Well, I guess it's the way we choose to look at it as well. If it wasn't for Twitter I wouldn't be writing this Blog post right now,wouldn't be already in a very good energy and frame of mind (by 5 am) or be inspired to take more action towards my dreams everyday.

All that is true but "There is no luck except where there is discipline"....we have to take action.

Yesterday I got another "Do you believe in the Law of Attraction" question...Now you've got to be careful how you answer that so I said: which part of it do you refer to?.....The part where you just sit at home and watch "The Secret" 11 times? No I didn't say that....
But definitely the first thing that crossed my mind was :"Let's be real kids sitting at home and watching "The Secret" 11 time is not going to make you more successful" as my friend Randy Gage would say http://ow.ly/TE1m (watch this vid.)

So that brings us to... let's start a new Habit this year - let's take responsibility and use our mind to create new ideas and take ACTION on the idea in stead of asking ourselves if the idea is right or wrong, this is not a very efficient way to create new brain cells.

You know, just having information we collect from outside sources go on and on in your mind is not called thinking...thinking is when we come up with a plan(new ideas) and take action daily toward our Vision,Purpose,Goals.
How are you using your mind?

As my mentor Bob Proctor would say: 2% of.ppl. think, 3% of ppl. think they think and 95% of ppl would rather die than think.

Please leave your thoughts below.
LH